Holy crap on a cracker, this is the biggest "missing the point completely" that I have seen in ages.
It's victim blaming. That's not a card we pull out, but an actual thing that happens.
She us clearly trying to lead the convo away from explicit content. She asks if he's drunk to indicate that he is being inappropriate, and tries to difuse the uncomfortable sexual harassment since ignoring all sexual messages isn't working.
Yes, let us all blame the victim for "allowing" this bastard to behave in an appalling fashion. I'm sorry that the recipient did not have the wherewithal to prevent him from making a complete ass of himself. His actions, and his choices. Not her fault.
She was likely taken aback, tried to remain professional, or didn't want to risk the situation escalating.
I read it as kind of sarcastic or jokey. Like, if you can't write a good female character, the odds of being able to understand that women are just people are slim. Just telling somebody who can't write a female character to write a cool female character like the women you know might not be helpful advice because…
I'm familiar with her work and this is something she talks about frequently, in examining others' work but also her own (which, I should point out, is renowned as feminist writing).