It’s possible for more than one thing in this story to be true at once, and for none of those things to be mutually exclusive or dismissed/negated by implication: that Miller is both poly/trans nonbinary and urgently need of help and intervention to prevent him from doing harm to himself or others; and that the other…

This doesn’t shock me even a little. I’m a librarian and used to work in a very Orthodox neighbourhood. It was totally commonplace for Ortho men to refuse to accept books or anything else I handed them, or ask for a male staff member to help them instead. I’m all about respecting others’ religious beliefs, but when…

This sounds eerily familiar to where I live in Toronto. In my apartment complex, which is made up of two 50-odd-story buildings and my building, which is 7 floors, we are straight up the “poor building” even though the units are priced the same and we pay exactly the same condo fees per month. (It’s also worth noting…

A male customer (I’m a librarian) once said to me: “Wow! You’re excellent at your job. Too bad you have that nose ring through your face or you’d seem so much prettier and more approachable!”

I remember reading somewhere that men are so opposed to having their sports heroes look attractive—and their female partners potentially finding them attractive as well, thus getting to engage the female gaze—that athlete headshots that get shown during games—especially baseball games—are purposely shot to look as…

I wanted to go sit alone in a dark room and think about my life when I got Rouge status.

Has anyone used this yet? Because someone really needs to use this.

JetBlue has FANTASTIC legroom, and in general their seats just feel more roomy. Nothing but good experiences with them. Someone above commented that even being 5'9"—also my height—is enough to feel cramped in most seats, but JetBlue is the only airline I've flown with in recent memory that didn't have my knees jamming…

There's no way of knowing the full story from the video, but from the way the caption is worded, it sounds like the prosthetics may have been delivered to her home and stolen off the porch before Karen received them. Obviously I'm just guessing there, but that's what my initial understanding was when I saw the video.

BEADS???

It's uncomfortable because it puts us in a position of having to thank or acknowledge someone for their unwanted attention, which, coupled with the feeling that we've been reduced to an attractive object for other people to look at and appreciate, is a very degrading and unsettling experience even if it's tough to…

While this bride needs a reality check about the number of fucks people give about her or her wedding, at least it's a bit less pointed and personal than the story that was posted on Jez a while back about brides who sent out letters to individual people telling them they are NOT invited, so please don't show up…

I tried to grab double handfuls of the (as yet uncut) wedding cake at the first wedding I went to before my dad tackled me and distracted me with something else, and luckily my parents were smart enough to never inflict me upon another ceremony until I was old enough to know better.

Diversity does not go both ways, and representing the straight white (cis, ablebodies, etc., etc.) male POV is not diversity. That is straight up hegemony, and to portray it as being made vulnerable or threatened by the representation of alternative POVs is not only absurd, but offensive as fuck. Yes, us women are…

Have you ever heard of the "history is the story of the people who won" argument? Because you seem to be playing into that a little bit here. You can't definitively say that women or minority groups WEREN'T involved in major historical events just because they aren't represented in the popular narrative. All we can…

It's not such a neverending search so much as I can't take two proverbial goddamn steps in this industry without faceplanting over it.

If I may, you suggest the lack of inclusion of any of the groups you mention here are mere "molehills" suggests you're speaking from a place of privilege, friend. You can't say what is and isn't a slap in the face for someone speaking as a minority and constantly failing to find adequate, mainstream representation in…

I ran into this same issue with my own father's Facebook profile after he died. It's still there and I routinely have his name come up in friend suggestions for my work Facebook account, which I just use for social media stuff for my job and don't have anyone friended on. It's been 5 years but it's still a knife under…

Whoo, hearing her sing that first line legit gave me chills.

My first thought: That's some straight-up Hannibal Lecter shit right there.