Why the sarcasm tag? You’re 100% correct. People are trying to act like a white guy isn’t white because he’s not the “right kind” of white (i.e. European Christian).

Remember the dogs and fire hoses.

Yep. As I said his fat-phobia wasn’t my only issue. My mom was... not nice. He really was the better parent. But that made his fat phobic comments all the more serious to me. His hatred of fat people was terrifying to me, because he was the only parent who liked me.

This guys reminds me of an ultra-athlete I dated in college. Dude was so disordered in his “health” habits. He taught me how to make myself vomit after overindulging in food or drink, and would suggest we do it together at the end of the night. I wish I could say I left him immediately. I was 19 and it took me…

The craziest part is that girls and women are constantly bombarded with fat-phobic messaging every fucking day of their lives, so it’s entirely unnecessary to add to that even if you believe that bullshit.

Same for pretty much anyone who looks down on others. People who look down on those who are unemployed or poor often think of themselves as deserving of their jobs and income, and somehow better than those who find themselves in a lesser position, for example.

Yep. My mom would pick at my weight a lot as a kid and teen, and that was damaging enough, but my dad usually stayed out of it... until one day he got caught up in my mom’s bullying and called me “pudgy-pot.” I don’t remember the specific insults my mom used, but that one insult from my dad has stayed with me for 20+…

I’ve been reading headlines lately about how men’s fertility is declining, and their dicks are literally shrinking (as a birth defect) due to all the phlalates we encounter on a daily basis. On the one hand, lol, maybe now climate change will actually get fixed now that it’s impacting their little dicks (or their…

My dad is fat-phobic and I can say that his treatment of me as a young person significantly destroyed my self-esteem and lead to years of sorrow and mental agony. I will never forgive him for the way he treated me and he is 95 years old. If I were this women - I would divorce her husband because his hatred of fat…

The question as asked is how to convince your husband that your sister is healthy even if she’s fat. That’s the wrong question. Your sister is valuable whether or not she’s healthy, whether or not she’s fat. Fuck your husband, and fuck his bigotry.

The fat is a distraction to the underlying issue. The sister conquered an eating disorder, as in, she exhibited the power to augment her physicality as well as, a mentality that was diminishing her power. The husband clearly takes issue with powerful women, which is why he would marry a woman who would jeopardize her…

Fat lawyer here.

As a fat gay man, I often daydream about if a genie were to grant me a wish, one would be that all mean fat-shamers, through the nuances experienced by all fat people through financial, metabolic, and other fat-causing reasons, to become fat and have to dig themselves out of it like me and other fat people.

There’s no convincing that kind of person they are wrong. The only option is to say regardless of his opinions on fat people you expect him to treat her and everyone else with the same respect and courtesy everyone deserves, and not to make comments where your child(ren) can hear.

One of my friends from college had an eating disorder. She told me one day, very matter-of-factly, that her father would call her fat/make comments about her weight.

And how interesting that the LW puts “healthy” in quotes.

Most of the time, parents need to approach differing opinions as a meeting of valid ideas to hash out an agreement. This is not one of those times. The writer’s husband is an asshole. There’s no middle ground here. It’s one thing to encourage your kid to live a healthy and active life. Teaching her that being…

My father is openly fat-phobic. All three of his daughters either have or had disordered eating or a full blown eating disorder. His fat-phobia wasn’t the only reason, but it did make clear the one thing I should learn to ‘control’ in order to have any worth.

This person never explains why they love their husband, only that they do. And the closest thing to a positive trait the husband has is that they are “active.” I wonder why they are married? I am having a hard time believing that this is the only thing their husband is a dick about. I love Brandy’s answer in that…

Yes. Yes, yes, and yes some more. And that she KNOWS this is why he has an issue with her sister means it’s been discussed — a LOT. So I wonder how her husband treats her, and how that affects the way she sees her own body. What she’s clearly saying is that her husband wouldn’t love her if she gained weight. I wonder…