We are not talking about whether or not an object is dangerous. We are talking about the act of giving a young child alcohol to consume / a young child consuming alcohol. Water, in and of itself, is not that dangerous - breathing water into your lungs is dangerous - even if you don't die or suffer any severe…
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Like I said, I was providing you with more information to consider, since you claimed it to be "Not that dangerous" (which the article to which I linked contradicts) - and I find it funny that you try to support your point with another article that contradicts it.
You claimed I had NO facts. You are wrong. I have enough to form an opinion about the OP's decision to not tell their friend that what they were doing was wrong and a shitty thing to do.
The article is referencing "liquid containing alcohol". This would include mixed drinks.
That is not the comparison that I am making.
Cheating on your spouse is not equal to them calling you a jerk once to ANYONE (and you didn't specify "to someone else" vs. "to you" in your original example) - and it does not objectively excuse the actions of a person who chose to sleep with someone's spouse behind their back, nor make it not a shitty thing to do.
I am not responsible for what other people on this thread have been saying, nor for how they judge others for anything. Argue those points with them.
"And your judginess was super original, too." - I never claimed that it was (nor intended it to be) "super original", nor does it matter. In fact, my original comment indicates that I would hope that it is not original. Your reply to me was pointless, baseless, and an unoriginal approach that people in these comments…
"I never said shit happens and never threw my hands up in the air." - This is what I wrote: ".. saying (essentially) "shit happens" as a response to someone knowingly victimizing another person just to get laid is making excuses for being a shitty person." Do you know what "essentially" means? And not once did I say…
"Something tells me that you will end up with a lot of acquaintances and not many friends. Or a lot of "friends" that simply don't tell you much." - How well-though out and original a comment. If someone has shown themselves to be a person who doesn't deserve my trust, I don't care if they don't tell me much. Believe…
And no, I don't see the world in black and white. My view on one very specific type of situation does not define my entire world view. And the only reason I "keep repeating the same things as well" is as a response to you making the same arguments & excuses multiple times even though I have already addressed them.…
So, because "people are constantly knowingly victimizing someone for their own needs", that makes it OK? I never claimed that it didn't happen. I said;
Look, I am - and have been - speaking specifically about situations in which the "other person" KNOWS that the person they are having sex with has a spouse. Got it? Not about some girl at a bar who just wants to kiss some guy.
The situation you described was one in which the girl at the bar knows your boyfriend is in a relationship; "For all she knows, we're together...". I am speaking specifically about situations in which the "other person" knows the person they are with is married (or in your example, in a relationship); my reply to that…
..And how does reinforcing to her that it is all about her, what she wants, what she deserves - and not the person she is knowingly victimizing - factor into your feminism..? And why does someone who knowingly victimizes other people for their own selfish reasons "deserve better" than someone who victimizes them..?…
"But humans are flawed ... so the expectation that we're all going to navigate the ickiness of relationships with aplomb is a little fantastical." - Yes, you are saying these as excuses. We are all flawed, but the expectation is still that we don't knowingly victimize others for our own selfish benefit. You are…
Being someone who knowingly victimizes other people for their own selfish benefit doesn't make someone a shitty person? You're looking at it as simply one thing they did that was bad - when it is really only one symptom of why she is a shitty person.
None of what you said makes it OK to victimize someone by having a relationship with their spouse. "I'm not saying these as excuses..." - Uh, yeah - you are.
Why does someone who victimizes other people by sleeping with their spouse "deserve so much better"? Why is that person not also scum? They are actively victimizing the other spouse for selfish reasons.