It got me interested enough to click (mainly I clicked the post bc I was hoping it would have some weird twist ending; and then I clicked the product link bc I love beauty boxes) but the site didn’t have any examples of previous boxes, or info about the exact products that would be in my box, so I didn’t actually…

From the one pic I saw of the jacket, it also had what I think were a soviet star and Israeli flag. I don’t think he exactly had a coherent ideology.

Thank you for saying this. I’ve been fucked up about sleeping with my rapists again after it happened.

Yup. I had sex with the ex who raped me a few hours after, in an attempt to “erase” the memory and “prove” to myself it had been a one-off. :-(

Same. Had consensual sex both before and after. Stayed friends for years. Twice, almost a year apart, I brought up that he had raped me - using the word rape - and he apologized. In writing. I have it. He has admitted it and apologized in writing and I have cut him out and been in therapy for two and a half years and…

I just had a discussion with a co-worker, regarding this video. What struck me, for different reasons than one might suspect, is the erroneous discussion on rape. A man might appear and drag you into the bushes. It’s typically a false assumption, but it’s instilled as a fear in girls.

Your comment is so poignant my eyes welled up and air left me.

This has me crying at work, because... same.

Yup. If I stayed with him and said “I love you,” then maybe I could just get over the fact that I was shaking and weeping the first time we had sex.

All the love to you. Similar situation here. Lost my virginity to my boyfriend at 15. We’d been drinking and I remember me saying “No, I don’t want my first time to be like this”. We both didn’t really remember what happened. But the next morning I knew what we’d done. At that point he stopped calling me, he was…

Yup, it’s that deep betrayal. And not just the betrayal from the person who raped but people you talk to about it who dismiss you.

It’s really common for victims of sexual violence to continue sleeping with their offender as a way to normalize the experience in their minds and give themselves the perceived power or rationale that that they had agency in what happened to them. Like Amy, I was assaulted in my sleep but with someone I didn’t even…

Been there.

I don’t know what about it made her feel like it was a ‘gray area’, and that’s none of my business. But I think one of the grayest areas is when both people are very intoxicated, maybe even to the point of being blacked out. A girl could plausibly appear to consent while blacked out, could appear to be ‘into it’. A…

I had consensual sex with the guy who raped me. I didn’t want to admit to myself that the dude I thought was a great guy was a rapist. And I bought his weak excuse, because I wanted to believe he was a great guy. Women don’t want bad guys, we want good guys. We want good guys so much, we’ll try to convince ourselves…

I also felt really angry...It’s like a rage that has stayed with me. I don’t think you lose that. Nope, you sure don’t. I’ve been living with it for so many years.

Rose McGowan was on The View today and said one of the most powerful things about rape victims in the most powerful way I’ve heard it voiced “The only perfect rape victim is a dead one and that’s a fact.” One of the reasons no one believed me or gave a shit because I wasn’t “acting” like a rape victim “should” act.…

right? like .. confidence is showing off, FLAWS and all. if you don’t have literally any flaws, in the conventional sense (whether its due to work done, photoshop, etc) then... you’re just adding to this fucked up societal image of perfect sexualized femininity.

I still would rather patronize a small women-owned business that donates some of their profits than a corporation that donates none. According to their website, it looks like they are donating 100% during the holidays.

The Outrage is definitely more legitimate than this “trend” since they’re donating most of their profits