Time for you to change their mind on that. They’re probably so used to thinking “what’s ours is yours” that they also think the reverse is true. What’s yours is theirs. You can do this, though. You can totally set up a boundary. You can tell them this living arrangement isn’t working out, and you’d like them to stay…

In a weird turn of events, I am in your shoes (figuratively speaking). I have had severe feet issues (had to wear casts, special devices, the whole nine yards). I have special indoor-only shoes I wear to other people’s homes. So I remove my outdoor shoes and put on my indoor specialty shoes with custom (doctor made)…

Yes to this: “I can honestly say that it’s a lot easier not being friends with her than it was BEING friends with her.” Being friends with toxic people takes so much more effort than NOT being friends with these people. I found I had so much more energy and time for ME when I cut people like my relative out of my…

You must - it’s so helpful. And it’s harmless!

Trust - hot flashes can last for years. No amount of gluten-free dieting and yam-based meals or millets will be helpful with these issues. (I have a holistic doc who is very “let’s change your diet and get you some reiki and yoga classes and essential oils and sublingual homeopathic meds” type person, and a western…

I’m so sorry to hear this. I know what sudden loss is like and it’s horrific and cruel and difficult to come to terms with. Sending you so much love, and hoping that you and your family are surrounded by all the support you need to get through this incredibly heartbreaking time.

I did think he was a heinous person (physically and personality-wise) in 2006. Besides my facebook memories reminding me that I was very Chrissy Tiegan-like in my views of Trump (hated him from wayyyyy back), with memories of me complaining about him years and years before he was running for prez, but I was also…

The issue of course is your parents, but the issue is also how capable you feel about setting boundaries. (I have had this issue before in life, but had help in therapy to learn to set boundaries and not care if people reacted poorly to them.) You can’t control what your parents do, but you can control the boundaries…

Forgot to add in my first response about HRT, that you’ll also have to take that with progesterone (so safe that pregnant women can take it). Bio-identical of course. It will help you sleep (because you’re losing it now, in menopause. So you have to restore your natural supply.) Good luck! Don’t wait! You could be…

Get on an HRT plan (hormone replacement therapy). It works. When your estrogen drops, you get hot flashes. Transdermal patches are where it’s at for estrodial replacement. You put a patch either over your ovary on your front or your back. It doesn’t go through your liver. Completely bio-identical and completely safe.

Yes, I saw something a week (or maybe even two weeks ago) from several people saying that posts weren’t showing up. And whenever I see an article with a low comment count, I think of those people saying comments weren’t showing up when they tried posting. That they were trying to post, and it just wasn’t working out.…

I’ve read your family posts many times and I just want to offer my condolences that you have had to deal with such toxic relationships from people who you would expect to support you and uplift you. It’s incredibly difficult to cut out family, and I don’t have any great answers but I do have lots of empathy. I have…

Extra stars for “take your fucking shoes off”. I live in a cold weather state, no one here wears shoes in other people’s homes, generally. I mean, we all universally get that there’s a lot of ick you can bring into your home on your shoes. But there some people who insist on keeping their shoes on and drag their muddy…

Yes this is normal. My theory is that when we’re all young, we’re leaving our very okay living places in order to join up with other people in our age range who tend to gather in groups. When we’re young our living spaces may include roommates, or parents, or undesirable apartments with troublesome features. Also,…

I guess because not everyone has student loan debt. (I think zero student loan debt for all humans is a good thing, but I’m sure other people are weighing what’s better/worse than that.)

Yes, it would be a mistake to assume those people purporting to be Christians (capitalized or no?) would be “good” enough to be raptured. These current people voted against helping mankind in any way, shape, or form (no healthcare, no child care, no CHIP program, no SNAP program, etc.) So you’d be stuck with all the…

Yes, and I find it hard to believe that he’s an amazing lover. He’s the exact kind of guy who wouldn’t know where anything is or how it works. Narcissists are not good in bed, because pleasing their partner would not be about them.

I also don’t understand her sleeping with him at all. Like, I don’t like to berate people for their physical appearance, not even the GOP or Drumpf, I would rather discuss the bountiful list of their other awful qualities. But like, Drumpf was not attractive in 2006 either. I don’t know how any of these women…

I’ve spent time on this too (and also, I love your username.) My idea is an island - a large island for them all.

I don’t understand how anyone is worrying about their hair in the apocalypse. Likely you’ll have it tied up every single day in order to chop wood and carry water and fight things that are trying to attack you. 70 degree days means mild weather, and more survivable weather (it eliminates both extreme heat and extreme…