Hard agree. It satisfied just enough questions without giving too much away either.

Yes, THIS. Calling other people’s bathing habits gross is some real classist bullshit. Yes the article at large is talking about privileged celebrities, but the comments in this article are talking about it in a general sense, for all people, and making a generalization that it’s gross. It shows how often people have…

Thank you.  Caring about when/how often people bath IS some extremely petty shit.  If you’re not actively in their armpits, why does anyone give af?  And why spend this extra time policing the bathing habits of others?  It’s weird.  It’s classist, too.  I worked at a title 1 school where the students had limited…

Have you seen their lawn though?  It’s mostly hardscape, not grass.  

And voter purges.  And gerrymandering.  He is a demon.  

That is how it is with all abusive people who don’t respect boundaries. They are able to project a honeymoon-phase of their personality, enough to gain the trust of someone, but they cannot keep it up because it’s not who they really are at the core. This is true of these friends, and also true of abusive…

Yes and yes and yes to the Brontes. People don’t change unless they want to change, and illness doesn’t usually change them into insightful, remorseful humans.  (I say usually because there are always some outliers.)  

I don’t think you attract these types of people per se, it’s just that maybe other people set boundaries earlier than you do (I used to have terrible boundaries with friends. It’s something many of us share. It’s something I’m still working on.) I just wanted to say that it’s not you, it’s likely your boundaries. What…

I’m sorry you’re going through this, but so happy to see many people in the comments sharing their reassurance/encouragement for you. We all need it, and it’s reassuring to us all. I hope your mind is soothed on Monday, and let’s all hope that it’s one of the other things suggested in this thread.

Yes. Two book recommendations: The Fuck It Diet and the Anti-Diet (By Christy Harrison, released on 12/24/19). Intuitive Eating (also a book), is the only way to live, as 95% of all diets will fail (stats and other info in those books and more). Check out Health At Every Size for addressing your health and well-being…

Wait....that’s Henry Cavill in the lead role?  I didn’t even recognize him.  Strong Orlando Bloom as an elf vibes.  (No spoilers, I haven’t started watching....yet.)  

I think if you’re saying you should have listened to your gut then you know the answer. There’s so much change that happens between the age of 20 and 30 and if two people don’t change in the same kind of way, then it usually becomes increasingly apparent that the match has run its course.

It will be hard on him but it’s nothing you can fix.  Just be there for him.  

Grief never ends. Not sure where you’re getting 18 months to 2 years but that timeline is way too tidy and impersonal.

As a person who has lost immediate family members, no, he’s not okay and let me just add that grief doesn’t ever end. It gets more manageable, but this is one of the exceptions to the rule of “time heals everything.” Time never heals grief. You learn to live with it, work around it, forge a new life without that…

After reading about your many hardships with your family for such a long time, I am actually SO HAPPY that you are moving away from them.  It’s very difficult to give up the dream of a healed, whole, improved family, but it’s great to embrace the reality and get yourself your own whole, healed, happy future!  

I will eat them for you.  

This.  Cookies are but a buttercream shovel.  

You can find a doctor who will give you birth control pills no matter what your age, you just have to shop around (which is a pain and far too expensive for most people.  Kind of like saying, ‘just buy a new car!” when yours dies.  I.e. not always attainable.)  There are many doctors who refuse to treat women with HRT…

I just want to add that I wish people talked about this more. We’re alllll progressive about not shaming periods with our period cartoons and period panties and being able to openly discuss it, but women still make fun of women for going through (natural and inevitable) menopause. It’s still a regular go-to insult and…