This is amazing advice. I’m not the target of it, but I love how well you laid it all out. All the stars for you!

So you know her personally?

Me. But I’m in the grays (even though I have an ungrayed burner on a laptop that died. :( ) So no one ever sees my comments on this particular topic. Frequently ungrayed on other topics, but never towing the party line on SATC or the threequel here. Lots of other people want this movie, just not on jezebel. It’s fine.…

I second this suggestion. Therapy is a godsend when you find the right therapist.

Since this guy is a nightmare and abusive, I would NOT contact his wife. I would contact CPS and tell them you wish to remain anonymous because of fear for your safety, but you know this man to be abusive with you and many past relationships. If you talk to his wife (poor woman) he will eventually find out and I do…

First, I want to say congrats to you for facing this and being on top of this. Do you know how much of a bad ass you are for handling all this? You are. You rule. Pat yourself on the back. Other people ignore health problems. Not you! You’re getting things done like you OWN the FUCk out of your body. Bravo! The…

I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this, and so happy for you that you chose to break up with him. I was worried I would read further and see that you wanted a way to make him understand your side, and I was like, this is not the kind of person who can understand your side. Anyhow, kudos for doing something hard…

“Oh no, my kids will be getting drunk with me! Typical Saturday night!”

I’m your girl! As a person who was dancing in clubs multiple times per week in the early 90's, you cannot forget all the great r&b that DOMINATED. Especially Bel Biv Devoe - Poison and Do Me (two separate songs). Karyn White - Romantic. Jade - Don’t Walk Away. CeCe Penniston - Finally. Rub you the right way - Johnny…

I’m not the target of the advice above, but I found your comment helpful for me too. Any tips on how to fit your job skills into a different title elsewhere, and how to find that opening? Fake example: let’s say your job duties are fertilizing lawns, raking leaves, and hooking up sprinklers. And your title was “lawn…

I had the bandage dress (and still have 2 in my closet that I love but don’t fit into). It was surprisingly flattering on many women and shapes no matter what Herve said. I wore it to my high school reunion (that was a waste of time - except for the dress itself!) It/they have always gotten rave reviews. And I still…

Yep, yep, and more yeps. I dated a guy for a very long time (years!!) who constantly talked about plans to move out of state (or I should say surprise me with his random plans to move out of state, to this or that place, it wasn’t a decision we made together. He made huge decisions and then informed me of them after…

Also, his story sounds like the start of many a Dateline episode. Who knows what this dude is hiding. ABsolutely tell the wife.

I almost dated a guy who was unbeknownst to me, still married and living with his wife (his story to me: divorced.) Thankfully, I figured it out before we ever got together. But the point is, I found traces of lies in all his e-mails leading up to his pleas to date. Like, dude just lied for sport, almost. He would lie…

“He fucked with her. Time to fuck back.” - this sounds like the most amazing tag line for a movie trailer and poster. “That shark fucked with her. Time to fuck back.” “Doctor Paternicus fucked with her. Time to...fuck.....back.......*sound of explosions*”

This is the saddest, true thing. When I was in a multi-year committed relationship in my 20's, and I visited a doc for some health issues, they wanted to also test me for STDs. And I was like, not possible, I was a virgin when I met my boyfriend, and we’ve been monogamous ever since. Plus I was a very type A person…

My best friend was in this position, and then she got laid off after 15 years there (company-wide downsizing.) Anyhow, all the reasons she didn’t leave that job in the 15 years of hell there, seemed trivial to her once she had no choice but to leave. She feared not being able to afford this, that, and the other thing.…

I was in dance for 10 years, and I walked ball-first because of all the ballet lessons. I remember vividly having a kid stare at me in the 7th grade and say, “you have freakishly good posture!” to which everyone in the area piped up with “yeah!” Now I’m a heel walker with bad posture. Hmmm. I should return to my…

Just laughing at this part: “comfortable support in shoes that had a heel.” Because I don’t think there is such a thing. (No criticism of you, just criticism of heels in general.)

All the stars for you. Especially this (but not limited to this): “BTW, I’ve owned about 6 cars in my life, so if the NYT is looking for someone to write a comprehensive history of the automobile and the industry’s present trends, I’m available and ready to knock out a few thousand words by Monday.”