Well really when I say “industry” I just mean “jobs you’ve had in the past, where you can use that experience to get a similar job.” It doesn’t have to be a great job, because you can view it as temporary (for you) even if it’s permanent for the company.

You won’t know how well the choice will work out until you’re well past the pain of just moving. After things shake out and you get settled and you find all the necessities and things in the area that are comfortable, you’ll have a better idea of how you feel. Plus, sometimes bad choices can even give you gifts. …

I’m sorry you’re going through this either way. The idea of another person is also a punch in the gut. And especially difficult to deal with because it sounds like he’s been concealing his feelings for awhile (feeling that pit in his stomach while simultaneously sending you heart-eyes emojis.) Lean on your peeps,…

Your eating disorder therapist can help you decide if and when you tell family members. One of the issues with letting other people in on what you’re dealing with, is that they’ll often give you advice that is counter intuitive to what actually works. (Like telling an anorexic, “just eat more!”) But not telling…

I am surrounded by multiple marijuana users, both medical and recreational, and from the obsessive amount of research I’ve done, marijuana is a depressant. One of the acquaintances (a boyfriend of a friend with chronic, severe depression) uses it and it just makes things worse. However, it seems to really really…

Jesus Christ. Like, it does not even matter what was happening in either of your cars, that word is off limits, period (like, even in people’s minds. I’m not even comfortable with people keeping it quiet but still thinking it. I’m 100% on the side of “never”. Yes, that sounds very thought-police like, but I do not…

I support this 100 percent. I was laid off from a job I had for a billion years, and then had to find new employment. I didn’t announce any of it, because I did not need the stress of other people’s reactions to my news. I needed to protect and guard my own reaction to the news. Like, you do not need to walk other…

That is super shitty. Unforgivable even. One of my close friends also had her long-term boyfriend suddenly ghost her within the last couple weeks. I don’t know why someone would think either of these behaviors is okay.

I’ve been driving my old car for more than a decade, and I don’t care that it has almost 200k miles on it (it’s very reliable) - the feeling of no car payment is worth every second I don’t have an mp3 plug in my car! I loooooooooooooove it! The best! Congrats!

Couples counseling will not fix someone who is trying to gaslight you. Counseling works for people who want and are willing to change, not someone who is comfortable with how well his methods are working (i.e. manipulation). I know divorce is so much easier said than done. But I’d start now anyway creating your own…

I relate to parts of your post so much (depression from being unemployed started to become a perpetual motion machine where you’re worried if you’ll ever get a job.) But per my therapist’s advice - the priority should be to get a job asap. I want to switch careers too, but with help, came down to a plan that…

It can go so many ways, and only you know what you want. I agree with whomever said that you should clarify what “I want to come see you” means. I.e. are you now going to be a booty call, or does he want more? I mean, you can talk about this via phone. If you sleep together without knowing this, your heart might…

The thing I’ve loved most about L.A. is the access to healthy food of every kind. You want healthier take out chinese food? You can get it. A healthier version of italian? You can get it. Lighter versions of basically every indulgent food you could ever want? You can get it. This does not exist elsewhere, but…

I just want to give you all the stars for this.

Same - also I never tack on my donation to a corporation - because they use that donation as a tax write off for THEM. Just today I was shopping for necessities and the cashier asked me if I’d like to add $1 to Hurricane Harvey relief and I said, “no thanks”, and she gave me this “tsk tsk” look. But she can stop…

Also married to a person with depression (that is being managed extremely well right now), who is also supportive and awesome and so kind-hearted it’s amazing. Just want to toss in the idea that others mentioned already - this could be the depression talking. The depression says all kinds of things and doesn’t…

Oh yes, I totally get your point about fae and don’t think you were bashing non-fae fairies. I was speaking in a general sense about many of the comments in this thread and ones like it, where apparently the only good kind of woman is one who rejects traditionally feminine interests and embraces traditionally…

I’m not surprised, I genuinely think she doesn’t understand it at all. I don’t think she’s even being purposefully obstinate, I think when she hears the criticism or suggestions, she hears gibberish she can’t understand. She was born in another country with a completely different (but not entirely dissimilar) racial…

Speaking of which, Mickey Guyton should be way more famous than she is. This song is only ok (to me) but her voice is amazeballs and I want more, more, more!:

Can we also talk about the misogyny inherent in hatred for anything being “too girly” or feminine, like glittery fairies? (Example: romance novels. Or as some brilliant stranger said on the interwebs: “Isn’t it great how women are conditioned from their earliest days to anticipate (heterosexual) dating and marriage,…