True - with him it’s not surprising. I am happy she found someone but I’m also like “Teach me your ways and I will pay good money to hear them!” well, not good money. But I’ll venmo $10 or something.

I have noticed when talking to all of my divorced friends that the men can somehow move on very quickly. Almost all of…

It’s a good thing for his new wife that people aren’t going to the gym very often with Covid

Can you please write this advice column instead of the current writer? You have alot more sense and perspective. 

I love your post. I had a similar sort of thought. Perhaps she never married because she was like “man relationships can be bullshit sometimes... why would I make it hard to extricate myself”. Perhaps she doesn’t particularly care about children. I have a pretty high stakes job and right now I slog on because I’m in a…

Thanks for that perspective. I guess we never really know what the other person is experiencing and it can be grandiose to assume. I think that having a heart-to-heart conversation is important in clarifying that.

It’s that same vibe of the dude who hurts you, and then immediately turns it around about how sorry he is and what an awful person he is, so that you’re supposed to end up comforting him instead.

There’s something about this letter that comes off as almost....proud(?) of how much influence they think they have over their ex. Couching it in self flagellation is adding victimhood to narcissism.

Okay, when I read this letter, my first reaction was: wow, this person is making several bad (unjustified) inferences. The relationship he describes reminds me of one I was in and, similarly, if you ask my ex his side of the story, he too would be taking lots of credit for why my life is the way it is. In reality, I…

LW, you know you’re still using your ex, right?

I actually went to the website hoping that there might really be some resources for someone like me-I won’t get into my demographics but-as I’ve said before I’m disabled.

Has Ivanka - or anyone in that family, including Trump - ever had to actually write a resume and cover letter and submit a job application? And then actually sit down for several rounds of interviews?

Melania found a new job!

Thanks for the advice Van-Van. I think I’ll start a lemonade stand.

You answered your own question - because they’ve never had real jobs. Since they’ve never really worked or struggled, they have no clue what it’s like. They COULD STFU and listen to people who have worked and struggled, but that would take effort and an open mind. 

Never ever having to face the gut wrenching fear of losing ones home, going hungry or watching ones kids go hungry provides a certain cushion for their emotions. A flattening of effect and affect, if you will, and interrupts the empathetic response.

How dare they?

Aw, thanks. This story makes me feel weird because I’m mad, but also these people shouldn’t have this child (or possibly any child). I hope he is getting great care and being loved now. It’s so sad to think about how he must have experienced all of this. I can only imagine that it is really hard to be a child whose…

Yeah, I went down a rabbit hole on this story and I waver with some sympathy for them knowing that even at the cost of shame and embarrassment, in the end they did what was probably best for the child. But then I don’t know if they did it more for themselves or the child. And she is freaking delusional to say they…

Disruption is what the adoption community calls failed adoptions.

I have mixed feeling on this. I’m not big on social media and am not a follower of whatever this influencer is putting out.