When I was in an abusive relationship, I thought the way my partner controlled and shamed me — or in his words, “pushed [me] to be better” — *was* support and unconditional love. I said very similar things in public when I was with him, and didn’t dare complain or share what I really thought in moments of clarity. It…

“The rest of what you wrote was nonsensical bs”

Only because you’re choosing not to put any thought into why it might make sense. It all made perfect sense to me; not sure what your problem is.