I think Emmerson is absolutely right. Forcing children to kiss and hug adults teaches them other people wanting to receive physical affection from them trumps their own wishes. I cringe when I hear an adult command "kiss your grandpa," and then repeat it with growing sternness, until the child finally complies.

Yes, it's annoying to see all the "I don't need this, just do x, lol" comments. Congratulations, you're normal. But a lot of women struggle with this problem.

Interesting choice of bra. You don't often see this type of underwear in music videos.

I'm actually on birth control for PCOS too. I tried going off the pill recently, and it was a huge disaster — so I'm stuck taking it for the next couple of decades, probably, unless I try to get pregnant.

Wouldn't condoms be the most effective alternative to hormonal birth control and the IUD? I'm gay so I don't have experience with this, but if I were straight I think I'd go with condoms before any sort of rhythm method.

How much regular soda were you drinking before you switched?

I also cannot relate to policing in the queer community. I'm a very femme lesbian, and while nobody ever reads me as gay before I tell them, I've never had a problem with gay people accepting me. My experience in the 20 and 30-something gay community has been so chill that I'm always surprised to hear other people…

This is an area where compatibility is important. I'm a frequent but light drinker — I rarely have more than one drink per day, but I have one drink often. When I dated someone who could put away several drinks in a night, and would get wasted at parties, it was uncomfortable for me. She thought she could handle…

I'm barfing after 4-5 drinks, so it would be a big problem in my relationship if I had six drinks on a regular basis. . . it would mean I was getting messed up + sick the next day. For a big guy with a high tolerance, six drinks might not put him under the table, but it's still a lot to drink — and if the partner…

THANK YOU. "Tell your partner what you want in bed" = feminist. "If you don't have an orgasm every time, your sex life is sad and terrible" = not feminist, and not helping.

There is far more pressure from the mandatory-orgasm side. Women who don't always, or ever, have orgasms during sex are made to feel like something is wrong with them by partners and by most articles on the subject. The recent article that argued your point, holding guys accountable, made a lot of women feel crummy. …

My ex used to ask me, seriously and expecting an answer, "If you could only save me or your cat from a burning building, which one would you save?" I hated the question and refused to answer it, because even if I would choose her, I shouldn't have to think about my baby kitty dying in a fire to prove that I care…

You should see him when a customer tries to pay with a credit card

Yes, exactly. I don't even buy organic food for myself, so I'm hardly a foodie snob, but the mass-produced commercial pet food is totally unacceptable to me. The food at the organic pet store more closely resembles what my cat would eat in the wild (actual meat, not cheap grains mixed with a waste from the floor of a…

I'm gay and I can't stand that song, as a song. I appreciate that he supports me, but I dislike everything else about it — the melody, the lyrics. I change the radio fast when it comes on. But if it made some people more accepting of gay people, that's great.

It's also especially relevant given the message of the song, which is that if you want a "hot body" and to "wear a bikini" you better "work work work." It's just a dumb song, but some people are going to actually listen to that message as motivation to over-exercise. So I think it's important that people know that…

You seem to be making the assumption that most obese people eat excessively and eat a lot of unhealthy food. That's true for some fat people (and true for many thin people too) but it's hardly universal. We've all met people who just don't care, and eat fast food all the time, but most overweight people that I know…

Of course I don't know your bra size — but I thought I was a 38A for a long time, I found out that I was wrong because once on a post like this one, someone on Jezebel told me that I was likely in the wrong size and directed me to ABTF. I measured myself, and now I'm a lot happier. 36AA is one of those sizes that…

You probably swim in A-cups on a 36 band. The ABTF crew would most likely put you in a tighter band with bigger cups. Some Nordstrom fitters add inches to the underbust measurement, and others don't — anyway, if you're happy with your bras of course I shouldn't be arguing, especially not even knowing your…

A true AA is very rare — this would mean your measurement under your breasts and your measurement over your breasts are exactly the same. I also recommend checking out the sidebar guide on http://www.reddit.com/r/ABraThatFits… and measuring yourself if you're not happy with your bras.