Rape is still rape when the woman has had lots of consensual sex before. She could even have had lots of sex with you before, but the one time you forced yourself on her without her consent, it was still rape. That’s true of physical assault too. Say you dated Ronda Rousey. She’s taken many punches in her line of…

I think part of it is that when you see such tremendous abuse normalized, you think more mild abuse is okay by comparison. I liken it to using corporal punishment on kids, because I’ve known a lot of parents who justify spanking their kids because, well, they were beaten with belts or had to cut their own switches…

Youth librarian here, just wanted to point out the allegations were first made in School Library Journal, not Student Library Journal. While being a widely read, very respected, and extremely prominent voice in youth literature and librarianship, I wouldn’t expect others outside of our field to know it’s name offhand,…

Because people who are part of a powerless community don’t aspire, usually, to gaining anything other than personal power for themselves. They may start out thinking that they’re just “playing the game” long enough to gain enough status to help others, but you know what they say about power...

I held a grudge against him for saying he wanted to hit a woman he saw using a Kindle on an airplane. This was 9 or so years ago. Then I accepted I was being petty. So, I read a lot by him, and really liked his writing. I can’t say I regret reading him, but obviously that’s done.

Isn’t enraging that being a feminist means getting disparaged as a man-hater when the things that men do unquestionably warrant being loathed? Fuck.

Ryan Gosling actually called her the new Meryl Streep :)

How is this statement in any way controversial, Ned?

Unpopular? The whole point of his character is that he’s a stupid, selfish oaf.*

*at least I assume that is still his character. I haven’t watched in in 15 years because...well, you know.

I know! I read that thinking, “Aww, so that’s what it’s like to have a dad who’s not toxically masculine and capable of listening to female opinions!”

My dad, an interesting man on many accounts, could also be a nasty, racist son of a bitch. This cost him friends and family to the point where few wanted to deal with him. After an estrangement of about five years, I started to visit him again, and he was noticeably grateful for it. But whenever he lapsed into his old…

As an aside, I associate rom-coms strictly with movies. It’s weird to hear a show called a rom-com. I normally think of shows more as dramedies, dramatic comedies. But maybe that’s just me and a rule I made up in my own mind.

Legit thought that was Jeff Lewis from Flipping Out, but with facial hair. I looked at the Instagram...weird when people do the same selfies over and over. They all look like the same picture.

I don’t care for that word. However, what is wrong with a romantic comedy?

I’m going to do a Google, but around what time period was the racism?

Finally!! I have rewatched fleabag several times and am enchanted by Phoebe Waller-Bridge’s storytelling and raw characters. I kinda really absolutely want to be her best friend.

“Availed” — I do not think that word means what you think it means. 

Nobody needs some Brandon telling them they “love them <3" over Instagram. That’s so creepy and off-putting. CEOs are psychopaths!

I hate that the fucking male gaze forces me to care for my skin, and this scumbag is making millions off my insecurity.

I’m sorry, but what’s my “bad take” here? To quote an important voice for our times, MisterPiggins, from earlier in this very thread, “It’s called a joke, Francis.” I mean, it admittedly lacks the nuance and penetrating insight of “I pray that more children get murdered,” but the leading statement contained an amusing…