It's valid. I don't know that they're trying to upend anything. I think they just want The Dream we were all sold but don't want to settle on some dickbag husband their family and friends don't like. White dresses, cake and speeches about you? Yes, please. That's a grand time. The whole wedding scenario is less…

Aww, you finally figured out what those toxic black ladies over on twitter have been telling you for months! Good for you!

There is one good thing about Amanda Palmer. When I was in my early days of feminist learning and only knew AP as the awesome feminist singer, I was astounded and befuddled by her various incidents of being a total asshole. This befuddlement led to me reading more and more and realizing, "Holy crap, feminists can…

As a person who got into a weird twitter fight with this lady over her watching 12 years a slave and it causing her to think about how mean people were being to Macklemore, I can attest that she is the goddamn worst.

How is doing her own thing mocking you thing?

Agreed. We just don't have an equivalent idea for adulthood in our culture and let's not pretend that if a woman straight up said "I'm awesome and I'm having a party to celebrate how happy I am" we wouldn't be calling her self-indulgent or obnoxious. Truthfully, I personally don't think marriage is that big a deal or…

What's the fuss tho?

You know what? All of a sudden I don't care if Kyle MacLachlan does end up solving her murder.

why do it with a wedding? Fuck the wedding. Throw yourself a fabulous party celebrating yourself; the people who matter will be there for you.

What I think this is about is that marriage serves as a rite of passage in our culture and we really don't have many other rites of passage, which often fill a psychological need. We need to come up with some other ceremony/ritual that would help people feel like they've succeeded or made it to adulthood.

And your opinion doesn't? Do you know how may people read Jezebel?

Yep! Amazingly, it didn't stop me from expressing my opinion though (and, more tellingly, it didn't stop you from responding to it).

Strip Club Idiot here!

Exactly. He may think "micro-aggression" is a new thing because it's a relatively new term. But what about the people who historically have had to avoid micro-aggressions for fear of being killed/abused/arrested without any kind of recourse? Like a black man looking a white person in the eye, or a woman having an…

And this is the reason that not all opinions are created equal. People who know nothing about a subject are getting pissed off that they can no longer show everybody how little they know about a subject without getting called out that they know nothing about a subject. Why am I supposed to feel sad for them again?

I also don't get the complaint that caring about microaggressions and listening to people when they say stuff about it is "so exhausting"...

I have well-intentioned straight white dudes in my life. Whenever we discuss gender politics, this is the kind of argument they raise: "But you're telling me my perspective about this doesn't count because I'm a white guy! That's not fair!" And I'm over here like, when I'm telling you what it feels like to be…

There is no such thing as "political correctness".

If ones post contains the subjects of racism or abuse etc to put in a TW racism or abuse. Then in body of post put in space like three empty lines. Its not hard. We do it all the time on groupthink.jezebel.com. A trigger warning is just a courtesy for those who do not want flashbacks or reminders. Its not like having…

Non-plussed about this. Being a woman and being a feminist are two different things. I wrote a letter to the Economist a while ago about a sexist argument that was made in one of the articles. I got a reply that said approximately this: "Dear burnershaw, I am sure that you will be surprised to learn that the person…