I generally enjoy Dan Savage but he can be a dick. Sounds like this was one of those moments.

My boyfriend is also the only person I’ve come out to because I felt it was relevant to the type of relationship we were going to build. My sister is a lesbian and I grew up seeing her persecuted within our family (with statements that were specifically explicitly anti-bi at times) so it’s difficult for me to be…

It's not unclear that you're bi and I'm glad you get to speak on it.  I'm unmarried but bi.  But this came off...overly snarky.  I'm no fan of hers but isn't she from a super religious background and kind of held up as that sort of paragon? Sounds like a hard situation to come out in.  Let's embrace her, not snark on…

I get your point, and while I dont 100% agree with you (I think there is something revolutionary about this former Mormon coming out), this article is just very poorly written. Your comments about her relative safety in coming out is much more poignant then the half-snark above.

If it’s unclear, I am bisexual and have written frequently about being bisexual. Enjoy!

Are you upset she said she wasn’t straight within a heteronormative relationship? That she’s not queer enough?

I can’t parse the tone of this article at all. Are we making fun of how ~silly~ it is for queer women in relationships with men to come out as queer? Even though that’s actually a fairly important discussion? Especially because bisexual women are more likely to suffer abuse*, and bisexual people generally struggle…

She’s best know for being on Dancing with the Stars, she’s been in some movies too I think. But I think her coming out is actually kind of a big deal because she comes from a conservative Christian family background (Mormon I think). So it probably did take a lot for her to get to this point, good for her.

I was really confused by this paragraph which isn’t well-written enough to convey either sarcasm or truth:

Exactly. I’m not a fan of Julianne Hough, but what she’s talking about rang true for me as a bi woman in a committed relationship with a man. The snarkiness of the article made me feel like shit and reminded me why I never tell people in my life (besides my boyfriend) that I’m bi.

Women with husbands are a marginal, underrepresented segment of the population. Thankfully, former competition show dancer and frequent podcast guest Julianne Hough has broken down our community’s barriers

Sir, I have ADHD, I am absolutely absentminded with everything. And I have no idea why setting an alarm for someone’s medication is “snarky,” I was being completely earnest, I use an alarm to remember to take my own daily medicine, a lot of people use the same method.

No, I don’t agree. Leaving aside the joke response that much of the time young children ARE just glorified milk receptacles... I’m a complex enough thinker to understand that all analogies are imperfect. That’s what makes them analogies. My children are obviously much more important and much higher in my consciousness…

It seems that we have reached an impasse in this conversation, as we clearly have very different philosophies on assessing and assimilating information. Yes, I tend to go with well sourced and documented information that has been vetted via the scientific method over the “gut feeling” of an internet stranger. Thinking…

Read the WaPo article Tracy linked in this article and come back if you have questions.

And I think the “forgetting the baby” happens more often than we realize because a lot of places you can forget a baby are not the car and don’t lead to tragedy.

I’ll counter by saying that we don’t necessarily want to feel superior, we want to reassure ourselves. I watched Nanny 911 and said, “Well, I’m not THAT bad.” I watched Intervention and said, “Well, I don’t drink THAT much.” I watched Hoarders and said, “Well, I don’t have THAT much shit.”

I get that some reminder is better than no reminder and would probably at least cut down on these tragedies, but it’s crazy how even big cues can disappear when a person is distracted. I think a lot of us go on autopilot a lot more often than we realize.

I wonder how many times that prosecutor just barely missed being one of these parents by a whisker.

What a fucking dumb take. You’ve clearly never been a parent if you’re 100% certain this could never happen to you.