They are all around you, probably in the same groups and shops you frequent. Just don't judge a book by its cover, don't assume a girl isn't interested in geeky interests because she looks fashionable or whatever.

That makes zero sense because it makes it sound like all unpopular people were boys and all girls were popular...

Yes but who are you to judge, and base the judgement on appearance? I've been told I look like a hipster, and I have glasses (trendy ones! I can't wear glasses and have 20/80 vision) and long pretty (most days) hair...I also dress femme and wear makeup! But I am a geek, depending on the subject. In high school I was…

Yeah that would be the opposite for a child-free introvert. The idea of living with a bunch of people, their questionable taste in decor, loud tv watching, their mess, making me feel bad about MY messes, etc. NOPE!

Ok so it seems there are two options. Either, the push-pull/ribbing IS the only way or it is not the only way. If it IS the only way, that means you have to get better at it. How? I don't know...it is something I am good at with most people but bad at with other people. Maybe more inflection in the voice? Maybe giving…

I would definitely go about it a different way then. It very well may be your delivery. There are thankfully, other ways to flirt, and you will want to be comfortable or it just won't seem natural.

Yes, I have gotten a few people who thought I was being serious. It would be a lot more than a few but I can *usually* tell when someone's personality won't react well to that and I adjust but if I think someone is more laid back than they actually are? Later I will hear that they thought I was mean. It's happened.…

I'm a woman with a dry sense of humor, so dry that I can do deadpan SO WELL. I am very sarcastic and my method of communication is a sort of flirty banter type teasing...on everyone, because I am good at it (but I am terrible with other types on communication and I also have social anxiety). Sometimes a person thinks…

A few years ago I went on a two week vacation and had a friend watch my dog. First time I had been away from her for a while (I got her when she was 10 months old, she's 10 years old in September). She's a happy excited dog, always happy to see me but that time was unexpected. When I got home from vacation she lept…

As a JW growing up (left when I went to college because, reasons) I must say I absolutely love your username. That is all.

Very solid advice actually.

You know that when they resort to calling you fat you have in fact won. What an asshole he was. Fuck that guy. I feel bad for his wife.

It *is* a problem in my town and a few women and I have been taking with a reporter on it. I live in MAINE though. It is a very safe city actually. Just has a lot of street harassment for some reason. A lot of friends of mine in other cities (NYC, Boston) also get harassed a lot due to the amount of walking they do as…

Richard, my experience doesn't mirror thecraftgirl exactly, but there are similarities. I did not suffer childhood trauma like she did, I was assaulted twice as an adult. The street harassment, however, and maybe it is due to the area, but since I walk to and from work, I get harassed (sexual comments mostly, once in…

If you don't know the difference between this and a man who respects his partner and has built up trust in able to be that dominant-in-the-bedroom type and the type of douche the book is advocating than you need to grow up a little more.

Women that are into that (and no, not every woman is) are mostly into their lovers doing that who they have build up a good relationship and TRUST with. Yeah I love my man to be rough (not "take charge" because I take charge too) but only when we are both wanting that and it is CLEAR to each other because we have…

Ask 100 women to have sex with you and 1 or 2 will totally say "hell yeah". It really isn't a great method for being a good person or building a quality relationship and most people will definitely see you as a weirdo sleazy douchebag but you might get laid a couple of times because of shear numbers. You do not need…

50 Shades is very problematic and seen as such, but regardless, it is fiction. This book is a manual, it is advertised as a manual or self-help. That makes a big difference right there.

I hate this move so much, even if I am with someone I care about and am comfortable with. During the actual act is fine, but as a form of foreplay I can't handle it, my first reaction is to pull away as fast as possible and immediately be NOT in the mood. I am actually having a problem with this sort of in my…

Redpill is the scariest place I've ever stumbled into. It really is the worst of PUA and MRAs rolled into a hate-filled scab of puss. Holy fuck. I will even say that Seduction at least has a few dudes that are just terrible with women and would probably be ok if they could learn that we are not a different species…