Thank you.

This will be buried in the comments and probably no one will care but: I knew eventually a comment section would make me need to take a break from commenting on anything serious here. This was it.

Yes, women are to blame for their own oppression!

I'll never get the sound of Logan's nipples out of my head.

I missed this so much last week!

I agree with you that there's almost nothing you can point to and say "that's a male trait" or "that's a female trait". I think that's important and true.

Because that's how people often respond to transpeople, including the TERFs being discussed.

Hey, it isn't my fault sexists have ruined the simple definition of "sexism"!

In that it does no good to respond to the fact that people feel like they are in the wrong-gendered body with "but gender is a social construct".

Maybe it's more that gender, as it's applied and enforced on people, is a construct? And we don't know yet what, if anything, "causes" gender identity in individuals?

No worries!

Okay. I think I mentioned a couple times here that I'm talking specifically about the argument that sexism against men as generally speaking just as big an issue as sexism against women. It isn't. Institutionalized sexism is much bigger and more harmful, and it doesn't exist against men.

Hey, I've been a woman on the internet long enough to hear many, many people argue that sexism against men is as big a problem (if not bigger) than sexism against women. And no, not all trolls. So I'm a little jumpy when I see something like it.

That's fine, not everyone vibes with it! I don't think it applies 100% of the time. But it applies the vast majority of the time, so I tend to stick with it.

What nuance, specifically?

I can see that explanation, though I will say that I've rarely ever seen anyone described as a TERF actually use it without adding in some gross transphobia on top of it. Regardless, I'd say pointing out that gender is a social construct (which I agree with) is pretty useless right now when it comes to trans issues.

Sure, but it's much more useful than the dictionary definition that gets brought out when people try to point out that sexism against men isn't an issue on the same level as sexism against women.

Not having the power to do anything about it is kind of a big deal. It means that "misandry" has very little societal consequence, while misogyny does. Yet people act as if sexism against men is a big a problem as sexism against women. Kind of not surprising that people have bad reactions to the word "misandry".

I wouldn't say it's a personal definition so much as a widely accepted definition used by people talking about social justice. It's also pretty common academic usage.

Again, what Vincent Adultman said.