Just don't. There's enough people out there constantly handing women their unsolicited opinions on their appearances, don't add your voice to the droning chorus. Comments on appearance send the message that the most important thing about a person is what you can see, and that's not good for anyone's sense of self.

Thank you for that, it means a lot to me. It’s funny, I told my mother about it and she straight up slut shamed me. (That’s what you get for going overseas and working in a bar.) But I’ve been able to contextualise that and a lot of other shitty things men do that I blamed myself for here at Jez. Like the one about…

I worked in a hostel bar in London in my early 20s. The owners held properties all over the City and often checked in. One of them took a shine to me and would drop by often during my shifts. He sent me home two different times to change into shorter skirts (was already very short) and would occasionally invite me to…

The answer is never, esp if you are her dad. Be the wind beneath her wings, not the spit in her face... The world hocks enough loogies of its own and kids deserve a safe refuge.

Take it the next step by setting aside time and working to build an exercise time you two can share. Kids learn from us and what we do as their parents, they aren’t going to just take the initiative and say “oh, well, mommy/daddy says it’s healthy so I guess I’ll do it.” Find something regular- go on a walk in the…

It’s also foamy on top, like a cappuccino. Babyccinos have been a thing at least since I was a barista in the early aughts in Houston... Nothing to see here....

Samesies, but it’s New South Wales. They pulled together and banned guns after their own mass shooting here in the 90’s, seems like a better response than doing fuck all.

She's crazy good in Heavenly Creatures...

Dyspraxia is real. I'm epically clumsy (and embarrassed by it), I tend to try to play it off for laughs when someone sees it happen but I'm dying inside.

Ew ew ew!!! I could t get past him talking about “sin” and wriggling aroubd because it’s “too tight.” Gah. I need a shower.

The one where I worked had hidden exits every ten feet or so (seemed like, maybe more like 20 but it was a lot). I felt like it was more for the protection of the actors/to let ppl out who were hyperventilating... We had an excellent manager who dressed as idk a cockney boot black with a skeleton hand and he always…

I worked in a haunted house a few years in high school. I looked like a pretty, ordinary chick at tryouts (especially compared to the others at the audition), but I got in. Once I was in makeup, I looked like a shiny silvery skinned wraith, dark around the eyes, long black wig. My schtick was finding a manly man in…

Really? Good to know, thanks. Like shark-punching?

Team lion, play dead?

Scary! Female foxes make a sound called a “vixen scream,” scared the living daylights out of me after we moved rural a few years ago. I was in tears and sure someone was murdering a woman in our garden, husband laughed at me (which is better than having the cops laugh at me I guess).

I like that about living in Oz (American, married an Aussie). When I first moved here I left tips, and more than once the server gave it back to me, seeming slightly insulted... Like, they make a decent wage, they don’t need my handouts.. As a former waitress I like that.

I have the skin of a three hundred year old vampire, I use Benefit High Beams to great effect. It’s pinker, you don’t need much, and blend carefully.

I never comment, but had to for this... After 8 years of marriage, my husband and I drifted far enough apart that he asked for a separation last year. I felt like it was stupid, we both love each other and there’s no big problems, and we have a little girl. So we sat down and worked out exactly what we both want/need…