I'm female and have been married thirty six years. I have always had many male friends.. some since I was fourteen years old. They came right along with me when I met my husband and I have kept them through the marriage.

All in all, she's not very nice to me, and asks him to go out and do things and never includes me in the invite. I trust him, but i don't trust her. Makes me pissed because he won't acknowledge that if the roles were reversed he wouldn't be happy with this situation either.

I know that now. "Don't you trust me" + gaslighting is a serious red flag, but I didn't know about it at the time. Dude was so emotionally abusive.

It's also not always about sex. Having been the spouse who was jealous and upset about the "work wife" my husband had, I knew 10000000% he wasn't screwing her. But he was emotionally cheating. He wasn't talking to me as much about issues/upsets/work and was instead turning to her to talk about all that stuff. For me,…

...because if someone gave me a choice between someone who gave me an ultimatum and someone who didn't give me an ultimatum, I would almost always pick the second person? P.S You do you though

Ugh... this. Been there, done that, got the sweater and the hat. I've been in two friendships where I was hated by the partner. Though there's a much different dynamic: I'm a gay man and the two friends were straight women. Both of their boyfriends intensely disliked me. The first time happened in college and I wasn't…

I've been in a bunch of situations where I'm that friend, and it sucks! I think a good strategy is to try to cultivate a relationship between your female friend and your girlfriend (or your male friend and your boyfriend, or your friend of any gender and your partner of any gender if you're bi.) Invite them to stuff…

oh jeez - this is one of my biggest relationship deal breakers. If the guy I'm with can't deal with me having friends, I'm outta there. To me it's a sign of an unhealthy relationship, and a clue that the jealous person could be controlling and/or abusive (first thing an abuser does is cut back your support network.)

I had a really good guy friend, and ended up living with his girlfriend when she was looking for a roommate (and I needed somewhere to live). BIG MISTAKE.

I mean this in the kindest way possible but that gigantic SACK OF FILTH did you a huge favor by ditching you and the kids. As for Beth: if he ever gets tired of her (and he will) she will get the same treatment.

No hero ever calls themselves such. You raised two babies under the age of two alone. And after massive surgery. Honestly, that is true bravery and laser-focus. I know you "did what you had to do" but lots of people can't do what you did and come out the other side so lovely and kind and funny and sweet.

Jesus fuck, woman! This is diabolical!

UK. No financial support whatsoever (apart from a small guilt payment the first Christmas that didn't cover the rent arrears, but was appreciated anyway). And yes it should be mandatory, but (deep breath) things had got so ugly by then that he had 'decided' that the kids probably weren't his anyway. He was on the…

Hahahaaaa, do you know I'm reading everyone else's stories and thinking "shit that's so awful" too- at least I didn't catch them or whatever.

OK that is just evil.

I've told this story before here. But.

Jamal's spent his whole life craving his father's love and acceptance. Cookie was always the one to support and defend him, so naturally he took it for granted. So now when Lucious offers him the prize (which we all know will be yanked away in a cruel and humiliating manner) Jamal jumps at it. When he gets…

I watched this show tonight on dorm duty with two students and was shocked at how fucking awesome it was. This makes Melrose Place look like a Daniel Day Lewis project. I wanted to hate it and couldn't do it. God help me.

where my Boo Boo Kitty/Cookie fan-fiction?! THAT BRAWL WAS ALL THE THINGS!

Web MD diagnoses are the best. Go for the allergies and leave with imminent blindness.