Partial answer: they’re in an industry (and especially a sector of that industry) that has a major gender imbalance, and a “brogrammer” culture that is rife with sexual harassment and sexualization http://geekfeminism.wikia.com/wiki/Timeline_… In a recent Stanford study, 1 in 3 women in (primarily SF bay area) tech…

If you read the original post, she states “I am including Paul’s name here with his consent – because that matters.”

She doesn’t say. For what it’s worth, I know a heck of a lot of San Francisco programmers; being in a mutually consensual non-monogamous relationship is so common that it’s boring. “Primary partner” is a familiar and bland phrase in San Francisco’s programmer community.

Folks, the point is that many people have accused Applebaum of a pattern of (1) engaging in sexual behavior toward a given person without their consent, and/or (2) bringing his private knowledge of a given person’s private sexuality into public situations where a 3rd party is present and the situation is humiliating…