I don’t remember anything specific but I’ve been reading him for almost 20 years since I was a student and I’m sure he’s made mistakes along the way but overall I think he’s pretty fucking amazing.

I know Dan probably isn’t everyone’s cup of tea and while he can be bitchy he’s never cruel.

I was gonna say, I guess her parents forgot to pay someone to complete her sorority application.

I think it’s snark about celebrity women “coming out” as bisexual even though they’re married to men and/or all their relationships have been with men. 

Why? I don’t think he was mean but if I recall correctly he did tell her she was making a mountain out of a molehill, at least as long as she’s married to her husband and has no intention of acting on her bisexuality. 

This reminds me of a Savage Love column with a letter written by a married woman who has realised she was bi but had never acted in it and had no intention of acting on it, and was agonising over whether she should come out not just to her husband but to her family and friends. Can’t remember the details but I’m…

Unfortunately that’s the way the wind is blowing right now. We’re in the midst of a far right, nationalist backlash to liberal policies. This is what progressives can’t seem to grasp. I’m not disagreeing with progressives on what they believe, but I think they don’t realise that they’re not a majority and that an…

I mean, look at her...

But they’re not. And that should tell you why these organisations act the way they do. Sure, it shouldn’t be that way but if it is it’s because currently those organisations don’t carry the weight they should. And a radical group like NYCFAR would be even less respected and feared than the big organisations.

What the fuck is going on with NYCFAR that they have basically shrugged their shoulders at social consent and decided they are so special and their ideas are so grand that they can do what they want without the support of the people they allegedly want to help? I’m fuming from the ears just thinking about it.

This isn’t about testosterone in a black woman with xx chromosomes, it’s about testosterone because Semenya is a woman (gender) but biologically is intersex and has xy chromosomes.

Yes, that’s her gender. Biologically it’s a little more complex than that because she’s intersex. 

Rules evolve as science and knowledge evolve. It’s not about excluding her it’s about reconciling gender (non-binary) with sports which are divided into men’s and women’s categories and as long as you have those two categories in sports to figure out how and where to draw that line and how intersex athletes like…

No, she’s intersex which deadspin and other media outlets like to leave out.

Yes, she’s a woman. Biologically though it’s a little more complex because she’s intersex and has XY chromosomes.

I loved those stories as a kid too, and other stories that would fall under the same category. Maybe they’re not perfectly feminist but they were important to me as a kid who always felt like a misfit and that matters more to me than their imperfect feminism. *shrugs*

I already answered that question and you don’t have to take my word for it, why don’t you look it up in a dictionary or google “what’s the difference between responsibility and blame?”, because there is one. 

For me blame implies a need for punishment whereas responsibility implies a need for accountability.

I think you’re equating blame with cause/responsibility. They are two different things. Figuring out cause/responsibilities absolutely can help figure out what went wrong and how to avoid it, but blame is not an essential component of that equation. 

This. Why the obsession with blame?