Toronto is just generally the worst.

Only if you think sex as a transaction is bad to begin with. Which is your right to believe. But many women have no problem exchanging sex for money or services. Also there are women who are turned on by the idea of "road head".

Well i am going to take a wild guess and say: they have no idea what are they talking about.

No. Wanting oral sex and being honest about it is not creepy. In fact, wanting any sex act and being honest about it is not creepy. It's only creepy if you lie about it - which this dude is not doing.

I did manage once to think myself to orgasm (absolutely no touching, brainpower and perhaps some kegels only) when really stoned. I also find that orgasms are a lot better (and easier to get to) when stoned. Does anyone else find this to be the case for them as well?

Yeah, I'd love to see an article where a man stays in a relationship for 44 years and never has an orgasm durning sex. I'll start holding my breath now.

So... this is like telling someone who's depressed 'cheer up'?

Might wanna channel all that blissful orgasmic energy into working on those empathy skills then.

Recently told my husband of 2 years that I wasn't... "getting there" - but that I didn't mind too much (truth). The rest of our relationship is enough as far as I'm concerned.

You make a good point. On one hand, I agree with you that there's no real need for BSDM to seek validation from the mainstream - so why should we care? But, on the other hand, people do lose jobs or custody because of their interest in BDSM or find themselves living double-lives. So, I don't think it's purely about…

I feel like that's the whole dichotomy of 50 Shades. It's all about people getting off to (false) depictions of a lifestyle, while still giggling and saying "well, I'd never actually." He's playing right into that weird sanitized obsession with BDSM that fans expect.

I mean, up until very recently the DSM considered BDsM orientation a mental malady. This meant, at the extreme end, you could get your kids taken away in a custody battle.

The same reason why I need positive representation in the media. I don't need to feel like a freak of nature for being the way I am. The world is very very kinky and has been throughout history and the fact that the media goes out of its way to mock any lifestyle that is not white hetero normative needs to stop.…

The fight for gay rights is about getting a certain amount of validation from straights, though. It doesn't end at getting the legal right to marry, and then hanging up our hats. It's also about making it so that straight people don't think that gay affection and gay sex is "icky". Being the only person at the office…

Try fetlife.com. Read The Ethical Slut (even if you're not into poly, it's useful). If you're interested in rope bondage, The Knotty Boys and Douglas Kent's books are both a good place to start. Good Vibes is the best place for toys, and they have a lot of great resources online. Mr S in SF has great leather. Have…

After a while reading it, I decided to take a shot every time she referred to "down there" as the "apex of (her) thighs".

Then going back to my wife and newborn baby afterwards... I had a long shower before touching either of them."

Dornan's just reflecting the attitude of the books, though. Christian's only into BDSM because of childhood trauma related to his "crack whore" mother, and then Anastasia fixes him with her love and inability to refer to her genitals as anything but "down there," and then they have the kind of sex that loving people…

I was kind of hoping the MST3K/RiffTrax guys would give it the treatment live for a simulcast when it opens. At least that way somebody would go see it.