OK, and vaginas of the world, no one owes you free dinners, free entertainment like movies and trips, valentines day extravaganzas, and so on, no matter how swell you think you are. Quit being so selfish.

Yeah, desperate men.

"Katie Holmes only gets $400k a month in child support"

This surprised no one who knows ruby players.

Lol, you know I paused shortly into that last reply of mine and thought, "you know he's never going to even try to understand the greater point you're trying make, he's not here for that. Don't waste your time."

"Instead, you insist that you are right and that your opinion is really the only valid one."

Polite Discourse? LOL, are you serious? Go back and read my initial comment - THAT'S the opening to polite discourse. Now go and read your replies. You did everything from telling me my opinion was meaningless to calling me sexist & racist and arrogant...all because I have my own views on the subject that don't…

"It doesn't matter what MLK or feminists of days past think"

Sorry, but it's really telling that you consider someone a "bigot" because they feel that women calling other women "bitch" for fun is both demeaning and counterproductive to the ongoing struggle for woman's equality and ending sexual harassment/objectification. Plenty of women feel the same way, plenty of feminists!…

Are you asking if I wrote that? If so, yes.

No, it's you who doesn't get it. OF COURSE I understand the "context" of calling your friends bitch. Of course men have always called women a bitch, regardless of you and your friends doing that. My point is that if you want that to stop, if you want to CHANGE public opinion, force change, and make it socially…

"First, you assume otherwise (without the n-word) people wouldn't be racist or sexist."

That's not true. Have you seen the reaction to that SAE video? Complete outrage across the board. Kids were expelled, fraternity closed. All because a group of kids sang a song - didn't act it out - just sang a drunken song.

You really didn't understand my point. I don't want to use that word, couldn't be further from the truth.

Hey Elle, appreciate the support. I have very little to add to your post because you clearly understand exactly where I'm coming from and what I'm trying to say. Shame others don't take the time to think before reflexively reacting, but feigning outrage and moral superiority is why a lot of people post on sites like…

I adjust my "tone" according to who I'm speaking with. You made it clear from the start you weren't interested in a conversation, just attacking me. That's fine, but don't expect me to waste my time on you.

You mad bro?

Krystal, this angry response by you says a lot more about you than me. I never "told blacks what to say", that's just how you read it. I just gave my opinion on why I think it's not helpful to the cause of moving forward in our continual struggle to progress into a more racially harmonious society. And I said so in a…

I never "told" anyone not to use a word, I simply gave my opinion of the damage I personally think it has. And I did so in a respectful, reasonable manner. If anyone wants to write off that opinion because I'm white, they are free to do so. If they'd like to try to change my mind, I'm open and listening.

Newsflash - there was NOTHING patronizing or condescending in my comment. Anyone who thinks they saw that had their opinions on the subject well before they read my post.