The problem is, how much choice does a woman—especially a young pop star—actually have? You can argue that, for example, Adele didn't use her sexuality to promote what sells to men. Her people, however, never set her up for that, and never created a niche. Miley's in a bubble and her handlers, who are probably gross…

You are not wrong! For years I was turned onto Evan Williams, but then a friend introduced me to other cheap bourbons, and now I can't forgive the burnt rubber aftertaste.

My cats do know their names! I call them different names to test. They definitely don't snap their heads up when I call them the wrong name, and when I persist, they cat me with their eyes like, jesus, are you a broken record or are you a human.

Hmm. I grew up in a family where my parents yelled, a lot. My mother, in particular. I grew to write off her shrill fits as irrational, regardless of the content. A couple years ago I visited them. I hadn't lived with them for many years, or been around them, even. A screaming match broke out and I was shocked to…

Actually, the bathroom situation is pretty common in South Korea. I lived in an officetel, which was basically a studio. In a lot of Korean homes—even homes with multiple rooms—the shower is separated from the toilet and sink by a door, and it's all in the same cube. It didn't strike me as weird and was pretty…

I think New York City is absolutely the place for me. I visited here for extended periods during undergrad, then moved here permanently three years ago. I guess I'm delightfully neurotic enough to mesh with the city; in other places I've lived, I've felt like a black sheep. I'm nearing 30 and I have in no way figured…

I don't think we are looking at the same images...

I have a question, and I'm not trolling: what should society do with these kids? Obviously, this is child trafficking, and it's vile. But foster care systems throughout the world are grossly flawed, and pitching them into the system doesn't guarantee a decent life. Some of my friends were foster kids and they've…

I find it amusing when I tell someone I have a same-sex partner and they jump to "science! technology! you don't even have to adopt if you don't want to!" because... did you think my adult life is unfulfilling without kids? Yes, I appreciate that I have options, and I'm grateful for social progress, but kids aren't…

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I am white. And I could tell you how I get "where are you from" all the time. My family's from the former Yugoslav and sometimes I guess it shows. But you know, it's really not the same thing as when a non-white person is asked where they're from. When people ask where I'm from, it's because they caught a whinny of an…

Yeah man, as much outrage as I feel about the Zimmerman trial, the monitored and self-funded excursions of these jurors is not any part of this injustice. I'm not suggesting these activities make one a better person, but, you know, being a juror in one of the most intensely followed trials of this decade could cause…

raphael from TMNT. we were non-sexual lovers. though the bathtub scene in the first movie kinda did something for me...