I know a couple in their late 80s and early 90s who are getting divorced right now. I guess you can decide you'd rather die alone than be around someone shitty right up until the end....sorry.

Thank you for stating that reality but that’s not really the point I was making.

I feel like being inhumanly hot helps a lot with respect to identifying as gender fluid. No one gives a fuck what your genitals are with a face like that.

Exactly - as a victim of long-term abuse, I’ve forgiven the people who should have known/ stood up for/ protected me because I understand first-hand the deep and overpowering effects of denial and fear. If I were to tell my story to someone and their response was to be angry at those who failed me, I would understand…

That old blog post of Jackie’s makes this whole thing extremely confusing though....

But unfortunately, life, denial and cycles of abuse are just not that black and white. She was a kid who, if the stories are all true, was undoubtedly caught up in it herself and might have even been raped as well. You don’t know her story and it sounds like you don’t understand how fully denial can consume and co-opt…

I get it, but it just seems too easy to refocus attention to a woman who was probably another victim herself in one way or another and who was a teenager at the time (according to these reports—I have no idea how old Joan Jett is). It would be nice if she stood up for her, but she may legitimately not have viewed it…

What’s sad and disappointing is that a bunch of women on a feminist blog have allowed this conversation to devolve into trashing another woman rather than the pedophile and rapist who is the subject of the article.

Hold on though. $6,000 to 30,000? Is that per game??

Oh and we addressed invitations that included kids to “and family”. Otherwise we just wrote the names of the couple. I did email everyone with young kids separately to let them know it was fine to bring them. If anyone had had an issue with finding a sitter for a full weekend, as our wedding was kind of out of the way…

Um. We invited the kids we wanted to (mostly the ones that were in the wedding) and also any kid 2 and under because quite simply, they were free. I don’t feel bad about that at all. I told my good friend who has two autistic children to please bring the kids if it meant one or both of them wouldn’t be able to come…

That really isn’t a good answer. Just because many, many mentally ill and autistic people are perfectly capable of going through life without harming anyone doesn’t mean that mental illness is not a legitimate “excuse” for violent behavior. My mother used to run a homeless shelter—a very large percentage of the…

If he was masturbating, it certainly wasn't that good. Why are we believing this?

I’m not here for a competition on who better understands abuse—and I’m not minimizing her experience, all i am saying is that it is everyone HERE who is putting words in her mouth actually. Have you read her book? All I have seen is some excerpts from an US Weekly article in which THEY describe her experience as being…

Yeah i get that, but the little we’ve heard doesn’t really support calling her one of those people. She said she doesn’t regret her time in the mansion...?; not all forms of mistreatment are automatically “abuse” as it’s being defined here...there is this knee-jerk desire to put all victims on par in order to avoid…

I don’t blame her for having stayed in the situation or doubt that Hefner was controlling and manipulative, but to lump her experience in with the majority experience of domestic violence and abuse victims is insulting quite frankly. I hope she would agree , since she openly admits she has no regrets about having…

Let’s please not compare the Playmates to women struggling with physical and emotional abuse, please. From what has been said, she is alleging that Hefner was a misogynist, controlling, pitted the women against one another, etc. - in other words, it wasn’t all roses and pillow fights, but they were in competition with…

While we’re at it could everyone stop asking my wife and I when we’re going to have kids, do we want kids, who would carry, how we’d do it? Having kids as a lesbian couple is hard. There are a lot of fucking questions to answer, clearly. And if we were at the point of doing it, we would be talking about it already. It…

Sorry, that link I posted before was not the right one.

Because true racism is defined by believing very deeply that you are justified in your perception of the “other” as being less than or evil, etc. So, if you feel staunchly that blacks are criminals, trouble makers, willfully ignorant and irresponsible people, it seems ok to her to have the opinions she does without…