Exactly! This is an example of the free market not an infringement on free speech.

Of course, and I do see that is what she is saying. I'm commenting on the broader character of when and how she chooses to reference people of color.

Whoa, Lena Dunham sees black people now?? Oh, wait she also questioned Rihanna's choice to get back together with Chris Brown... Hmm so she can comment on the lives of actual POC, but she feels unqualified to write any into her show. Got it.

Yes, she did. And given her obstinate lack of understanding of why the racial dynamic of her show continues to be problematic, I am not reassured by how and when she chooses to reference POC.

Amen! And seriously, what kind of self hatred would one have to indulge in to watch her for 27 whole minutes?

Exactly, which is why the "This is not an invitation to rape me" add is actually a useful tool. Girls don't need to hear more about what we are not supposed to do. We get that message from birth. Teach consent. Full. Stop.

The reason some of these ads are problematic is because they perpetuate a false narrative. Most women who are raped are not walking home alone, but are instead in the company of a man (or men) that they know and trust. They might be drunk, but again, their assailant(s) is/are someone with whom they feel safe.

My 2 cents is only that his apology sounds like a laundry list of things he was supposed to have learned from the experience. And the sorry/ not sorry about being busy... please don't even bother.

That is a thing of beauty. Is there room for me in that sandwich?

Ok, I though I had heard it all, but laundry... Yep, crazy women with their not wanting to do chores on a date. What does a guy have to do to get laid?????!!!!!

What makes me sad is how common the dude-not-having-$2-for-a-slice-story is. If not wanting to date someone who is borderline homeless makes me picky then I am way happy to be a spinster!

Agreed! And thank you for the thank you. I got the really weird sense that I should keep my unoffended Latina voice to myself in this thread...

Seriously! As a Latina I'm a lot more offended by the knee jerk outrage that basically feels like they are all saying, "Keep that 'ethnic' stuff where it belongs!" And apparently where it belongs is not on Rihanna.

To me, no. And, yes I saw the tear drop in the initial round of photos.

So "ethnic associations" are a bad thing or taboo? Personally I find that a lot more marginalizing than a Halloween costume.

What Rihanna did is more like Miley Cyrus dressing up like Lil Kim than what Julianna Hough did. A chola is not an offensive stereotype. It is a style of dress specifically created by a subset of Latino culture to self-identify and show solidarity. This is also why it is not like Ireland Baldwin who was dressing up…