Success would have been marrying a man who actually respected your thoughts and opinions.

I've only ever been the issuer of ultimatums, and I don't think I've ever been issued one. Most ultimatums I issue are low-stakes (That song is so annoying. If you hum it again in the kitchen tonight, you're on your own for cooking dinner.) The only high-stakes ultimatum I've ever issued was with regard to periodic…

Yes! I broke up with somebody who couldn't/wouldn't stop seething - for hours - whenever anything didn't go his way. When I told him flat-out that I couldn't be with somebody who behaved that way, he accused me of issuing an ultimatum.

Sometimes, what somebody labels an ultimatum, is really just a fact. "I can't live with x behavior. Continue it, and I will leave."

While some ultimatums may be justified/necessary, I think the ultimatum of "stop hanging out with your friends because I feel threatened" is abusive and never okay.

I think there are two kinds of technical ultimatums - "Either x is going to happen, or I am going to feel/do this because of an honest articulation of my needs. Respond to that how you choose given your needs." and "Either x is going to happen, or you are going to be punished by me doing/feeling this because of your…

Lilly, I agree in general with what you're getting at i think...

I'm very sorry if you have been or are in a relationship with someone who has addiction issues. I know that it can feel very isolating and damaging .

My mom gives ultimatums all the time. One time my dad finally gave her one. He said the next time she gave him one, their marriage was over. He told her he would stay married until all the kids moved out and/or she was self-sufficient (she was a stay at home mom) but it was over and he would not consider himself…

Agree, totally. I wouldn't jump right to the ultimatum, but yeah, if there is something that needs to change or you don't want to be in the relationship, it is totally fair to lay that on the line. If they are more attached to their behavior than they are to you, then ok. You aren't obligated to stay in a…

"Sorcia, I'm in love with your best friend [a dude with a hilariously ridiculous name that I cannot post here]. We're moving to Virginia and I hope you'll be happy for us."

I was seeing one of my longtime best guy friends (whom I'd kissed a couple times over the course of our friendship, but had just started, like, being with in any more significant capacity). He told me that he loved me quickly. The whole thing was very intense. I'd been hearing rumors from mutual friends that he was…

So am I being overly sensitive that none of my local friends seem to have remembered my birthday this year? For the last 5 years or so that we have all been friends we usually do a small dinner or something, at least get together somehow for the birthday person. I don't usually care and if asked previously I would…

I've started seeing a new guy and he is amazing and we're brilliant together. Which means I am now living in a state of perpetual fear that he's going to dump me. Does anyone else always feel this way in a relationship, and how can I make it go away and just relax and enjoy?

Do yourself a favor, find out where the closest national event is and risk $25. Make sure you are there when top fuel and funny car are running and find a place as close to the track as you can get (starting line is best but anyplace along the track will do) and take it in. There is no description, audio or visual…

Oh lord I just scared my dog I laughed so hard.

I was 16 when I first got my heart totally set on one, 17 when I finally got one (I owned three over the years). I'm 28 now. And I would own another again in a heartbeat, they are such fun little cars!

I like Will and Amy, but my big meh heresy is Arrested Development. So boring and contrived. I just feel like everyone else is watching a different show.

Are we really giving an ally a hard time for not understanding the literal definition of feminism and using societal cues from those around him to inform his idea of what it means? Yes, that was a mistake, but he rectified it, and is doing his best to try and be a good ally now.

Reminder: all new religious movements are just schemes for old men to rape 13-year-old girls.