educating people to recognize when a "friend" is in the wrong is huge, i agree. like if your bro is trying to bring home a girl who CANNOT WALK, fucking stop him.

Tired is pretty much where Obama lives now. Everytime he's on camera I just want to give him a mug of hot chocolate milk and shoo him off to bed.

While I completely agree with this campaign, I can't say it doesn't bring real tears to my eyes in that they are specifically addressing the abuse that occurs on campuses/universities. The fact of the matter is that the general populace doesn't know how to react either. I have been a victim of sexual abuse both at…

Eliminating victim blaming takes away the rapist's most powerful excuse. I think it's a worthwhile effort.

I think the idea is that through education and increasing awareness about sexual assault, and by showing compassion for victims rather than suspicion and doubt, the ability for rapists to operate in society's willful blind spot is removed. While rape is obviously the fault of the rapists, society sort of enables them…

I think the bystander effect and cultural apathy towards sexual assault can actually create rapists and allow rapes to occur which otherwise would not.

I totally understand where you're coming from. However, my mother used to tell me the same things, like she would have more money without me, and that me getting sick was an inconvenience to her and that she had to leave her job to have me and had to "start all over again." These are completely legitimate…

I'd feel sympathy for a woman who was forced into motherhood against her will or by lack of options, but the woman saying she never wanted to be a mother then had a son anyway, had no feelings for him, and then had a daughter? I'm sorry, she's just an asshole.

Either way, I think its important to protect children from those sentiments, because either way, they will eventually feel responsible that their mother hates her life. But yes, a lack of affection is certainly the more troubling of the two.

That's the thing - I think its important to normalize these kinds of feelings to an extent, because shame never helped anyone. But its also important to protect those who did nothing to deserve any of this besides being born.

Agreed. But I think there are two different types described in the article. A mother who loves her baby and simply doesn't like the tasks of being a mom isn't that bad. But a mother who doesn't feel affection is a huge problem. It doesn't matter that she takes care of her baby, if there's no affection the baby doesn't…

That right there is my biggest beef. Thank you for expressing it better than I could.

That was my first thought as well. No one wants to be referred to as the biggest mistake of someone's life, especially if the person saying it is their parent. The pain that causes, pain that people like you and I have experienced firsthand, cuts incredibly deep.

It didn't occur to me they weren't keeping these thoughts to themselves. I've seen whisper accounts talk about it etc, where they do get much of my sympathy - I firmly believe nothing on Earth should make you a mother except your own exceptional passion for mothering. That their children would hear these sentiments…

I understand why people would feel like they couldn't talk about this. If we're being honest about feelings here, I honestly felt no sympathy for the women above. To be honest, I saved all my sympathy for their children.

We used to call my dog Tyrion, may he RIP, "Tee", and he always used to be in the way. Thus we used to quote a lot of "Tee in da way" from Nell.

You know how I know that "urban" is just code for black? I was in Blockbuster years ago when it was still a thing, and I wandered into their "urban" section. In there I found The Shawshank Redemption, The Color Purple and Corrina, Corrina. It should have been called "Films that have black people as the star or…

Am I the only one getting a little Leanna from OITNB vibe here?

Pro tip: If you have to find another word to describe what you're doing so that you don't sound racist, you're probably doing something racist.

"Say, fellows, I've just originated a new urban-style music I call jazz. All my own invention, you see."