What is so striking to me is that something that can be traumatic and have such lifelong effects on the victim can not even be a blip on the perpetrator’s radar.

Ah, brings me back to my religious days, where the line was between “chastity” and “licked cupcakes”, with no regard to whether the encounter was bumping uglies or being assaulted. Didn’t matter how it happened, sin is sin. Women finally claiming a say in their sexual experiences is the same thing as a person forcing…

OMG. Hugs.

First, I’m one of those people in the ER who evaluates folks to see if they need treatment. I see a lot of kids, and it says a lot about your parenting that she felt like she could come to you to ask for help. That’s a victory, Mama. Having you is going to make a huge difference in her prognosis.