Agreed. I said in another comment how this works well for ISIS, because they want a war and this is great for recruitment. That’s the most logical explanation but it also furthers putin’s interests too.

Well the thing to keep in mind is that ISIS wants her to win. Monsters they are but they are also not stupid. They know that Europe and the US’s move right helps them immensely with recruitment and making their message seem accurate. Electing Le Pen, Trump, the Brexit idiots it just ensures that when they tell young…

You should listen to the This American Life episode this week. It all about Putin and his super suspicious rise to power. While this shooting is no where near as crazy as the pre-Chechnyan War apartment bombings, it does make a person very wary of conveniently timed terror attacks. Especially when they stand to…

Terrific article! Here’s how I feel about Le Pen:

Yeah! I think the word "frottage" is hilarious, so I try to use it whenever possible. (p.s. It's a French word, so it's pronounced "froh-TAHJ," not "FRAH-tidge.")

You can MOST DEFINITELY dry hump and call it sex. It's called "frottage." Our culture pushes the idea that "sex" is limited to p-in-v (or, if you're a gay man, p-in-a) sex. But that's a damaging idea. As Savage points out, vaginal penetration is likely to be way more emotionally and physically taxing for women, and…

Completely agree. I've just started sexing with a new guy and he seemed befuddled by the fact I get up to pee within minutes of the deed. I was like doesn't almost every woman do this?? Apparently not.

Couples of every age group are still different. I happen to know from my mother that she and my father consistently had and continue to have much more sex than that, throughout their forties as older parents with very young children while working more than full time through the present day as boomers in their late…

So the correct answer is compulsory polygamy? Or enforced chastity? Or...?

I think there are legitimate arguments couples can make for practicing monogamy. Ones that aren't based on ownership or religion. And if you make that choice then of course there has to be compromise in the sex department just as there is in basically every other relationship department. I'm not suggesting that you're…

thank you.

comments like these are so depressing and often a little condescending. basically you seem to be saying "if you're happy and having good sex you're not in a real marriage." this makes "real marriage" sound like that machine from The Princess Bride.

I don't know. I'm 45 with the drive of a 20-year old, and my 44-year-old partner, she's insatiable.

Seconded. For the first third of my relationship, my sex drive was much higher than my partner's. It kind of freaked him out sometimes, because obviously, girl with high sex drive = cheating nymphomaniac. He never got super jealous, but he didn't know what to do about it at first.

I think it's important to have this conversation. What qualifies as criminally punishable rape may not always be what qualifies as something like rape that induces some kind of psychological trauma. It's important to talk to your partner, because trust me - if (s)he finds out later on that you were having sex with…

I am in a similar position, minus the child.

This seems like a great time for the concept of "it's rape if you feel like it's rape" (a concept that I'm normally not a fan of, because legalities.) If maintenance sex doesn't make you feel bad, and more often than not makes you feel at least a little bit better in some way, and most importantly, if you feel…

Clearly an intentional stylistic choice, one that works very well in my opinion. By the time you're out of high school, you should be able to accept that some of the "rules" you learned about writing in 8th grade are negotiable.

Being married to someone with a vastly different sex drive can be extremely difficult. In my case, my husband has a normal sex drive and mine has been completely destroyed by anti-depressant use. It's just... gone... and switching meds never brought it back. In addition I have vaginismus so sex is also painful…

For anyone on an SSRI or other libido-dampening medications, it may be the case that unless one is willing to occasionally (or regularly) engage in maintenance sex, the sexual relationship could well wither and die altogether. It's not ideal, it's not convenient, and the situation can suck a lot, but for some of us,…