I pretty much automatically will take that “out” when provided like that. If someone’s going to make a probability assumption that I’m going to say no, I’m going to prove them right.

That tactic sounds less to me like giving someone freedom in their response and more like a passive-aggressive form of guilty tripping someone. Not saying it won’t work, it just doesn’t sound like a method I’d be comfortable using most of the time.

Well, I still prefer the tried and true “Nobody move, nobody gets hurt.”