Ok this doesn’t seem like a great time to #notallmen. I said I have to be careful with dating men in general because of the men who are abusive. Believe me, I do not enjoy taking precautions like this. I obviously have male friends who are awesome, a dad who did his equal share of parenting and supported my mom, so…

Indeed...I admit that after that I’ve always been one to break up either remotely or publicly, which sucks because of course you want to think the man you dated isn’t scary, but sometimes you feel like there is a huge gulf between the way men act when they get what they want and the way they act when they don’t, and…

OH COME ON.

Thanks, it’s been depressing to see some of the commenters on here writing “Oh well you don’t know so you should have waited for him to get worse” or who seem to think abuse is only physical. They’ll do anything to justify this guy’s behavior because they’ve probably done it themselves.

Yeah, poor way to phrase it. I should have said family members will be dealing with it. By “forever” I meant they’re dead and nothing can change that now, which I think you knew. But thanks for correcting me....surely that’s the most important thing to do when someone gets emotional and reflects on the shit women (and…

Oh you’re just great, buddy. No, I wasn’t “whoring around” with two men. I don’t date two people at the same time. He asked in person once and I answered. He didn’t trust me so he had a random number ask me and when I still said no, they persisted in asking. He asked yet again after these texts and I repeated myself…

Dear god, that’s terrifying.

Thanks. :) Honestly I wonder if some of the reason why women don’t break it off sooner is because a) we’ve been taught we’re always overreacting about everything so this probably isn’t a big deal and b) if I’m such a smart independent woman I couldn’t have chosen someone like this, so he must be OK. Luckily, I…

Jesus Christ, that sounds like a fucking nightmare. You’re right, FB’s real name policy is hell on women trying to avoid abusive exes or abusive men in general. I hope you meet someone who treats you with respect and gives you space. It’s so upsetting that dating has to be such a risk for so many women.

I’ll never forget when I was dating this man three years ago and one day he proceeded to get strangely aggressive toward me and controlling. I looked him in the eye, tried my best not to look scared and proceeded as normal with cooking, and he backed off of his “weird mood.” But I felt like I escaped something. Then…

Yes, but would he have been in danger if not for his anger about her breaking up with him? This reminds me of the Elliot Rogers murders when his aim was to kill women but because he killed men as well people said it can’t be framed as violence against women. This man’s tragic death is not made petty or meaningless…

Technically it’s not a boner but sure, I get it, female gaze isn’t better than the male gaze, yada yada yada. I respect Amy Schumer’s work and have said so on multiple occasions but obviously I don’t blame you for taking offense.

I love that theory. It reminds me of the 30 Rock scene where Tracy admits he isn’t actually cheating on his wife. I’ve been watching a lot of Netflix...

I know the correct response here is “Women’s bodies should not be discussed as the thing that defines their self-worth” etc but I find it hilarious that people find Amy Schumer’s body to be so “brave.” I mean the woman has a gorgeous body (those legs!) and not to mention she’s kind of leaning in a way that emphasizes…

THIS. I watched this when I went to see family for holiday break and my mom turned it on to whichever channel has these running all the time and I nearly choked on my sandwich as she was complaining about moving to Brooklyn.

Yeah, as a teenager living outside New York City in a rural area I loved it. At 24 I watched it again and couldn’t stand these entitled mostly wealthy women who didn’t represent me at all and seemed so out of touch with the New York I knew when I lived there.

“Thinking about the math, the longer I wait to start my own family, you start to think, ‘When I consider someone to marry, I have to find someone young enough to have children,” he says. “And the age difference. What’s acceptable? What’s O.K.? What doesn’t work?’ There are a lot more challenges the older you get, and…

For Trump to regain the moral high ground....what that takes is Ted Cruz. That is awful Ted Cruz is.

It’s the 90s all over again from what I can tell, and not even the better fashion trends from the 90s. I’m pale, short and petite and these clothes swallow me up AND make me look like I’m chronically ill. But from what I can tell they don’t really suit most people.

So much drama. That’s exactly what we need right now. So many beige brown shapeless clothes are out there right now and I just. can’t. deal.