You shouldn’t be humiliated. No one on that group e-mail who was worth 2 cents in human capital thought less of you. They thought less of her, but not you.

I don’t want to watch the tape, both because I don’t have time at the moment, and because I don’t want to get upset, but I can’t help noticing that Jezebel’s version of what the tape depicts and the management’s version are quite different. If the management has misrepresented what the tape shows, they have set…

Someone I used to know once told me about doing improv in L.A. with Farley pre-SNL. He said Farley was a force of nature: completely committed, no risk he wouldn’t take, no riff from another performer he couldn’t catch and make funnier.

Your findlaw link proves nothing. A judge has wide latitude to hold anyone in contempt who has actually demonstrated contempt for a reasonable, lawful order of the court, e.g. a witness who has been subpoenaed but refuses to testify, or a juror who disobeys an instruction not to speak to the press. A judge cannot…

I’m not sure what you’re referring to — I dropped it pretty early on. I figured there was worse yet to come, and I’m assuming that’s what you’re talking about.

I just started watching a new TV series I really wanted to like, and had to give it up about 20 minutes in when what are obviously the two main characters think it’s fine and cool to terrorize two children until one of them pisses his pants, at which point they start to humiliate him. What the fuck, Steven Bochco? How…

Stuff like that used to make me crazy when I had roommate(s). I ultimately realized that it wasn’t about the food or the clothes or whatever, it was about the boundary — i.e., it had to do with issues I had about stuff from way back. When I understood that, it helped a bit, so I mention it in case it might be relevant…

No, she can hold people in contempt for not following reasonable orders that are within her authority to make. She’s a judge, not a Queen, her authority has limits, and she seriously overstepped them.

There is nothing that could possibly be on those videos that would make her initial ruling or language appropriate. Even if she had absolute proof that the mother had been practicing parental alienation, that would make the children victims, not criminals. She needs to be off the bench, or at least to be removed from…

She, her mother, the whole misbegotten clan: they’re grifters. They’re like the Malloys in “The Riches”, only less interesting.

Old money. Making that kind of display, even if one is fully capable of paying for it, is considered crass in some circles.

Ugh. Thank you for making me aware of this. I hadn’t seen it, but Wise was starting to get on my nerves for the extent to which he didn’t just speak out against racism, but actually seemed to feel entitled to speak for POC.

I prefer not to think that way, myself. Men aren’t a horrible breed, but institutional sexism is a horrible, powerful thing. If we make this about men’s essential nature, we’re giving up. Don’t hate other men, educate them. Be a man who doesn’t support this shit (well, you you already are that). Make sure that you’re…

You might have been able to make this argument 20 years ago, before the rise of the Internet. To try to make it currently, you have to be either living under a rock, or just really dedicated to not knowing anything that might conflict with your worldview. Did you read none of the coverage about online groups for…

Ken Kozak said his son-in-law was responsible with weapons.

WTF? Yes, hearing people saying hateful shit about people you love, constantly having to decide whether to reveal yourself to be one of the people they just indicated are less than human, that’s just a stroll in the park. Yeesh. Sure, it’s a slightly different flavor of horrible, but it’s still horrible. I have to…

Thank you. I hate it when something is funny and I don’t know why.

I’m pretty sure you’re right that ten years ago, most women’s colleges were not admitting transgender women. At any rate, I know that Wellesley, Smith, and Mt. Holyoke all announced relatively recently that trans women would be eligible for admission.

Yup, I don’t have periods anymore, and nobody’s shown up to revoke my woman card.

Relapse, not remission. Remission is good.