Hundreds of millions. Hundreds of millions? When you find yourself saying ridiculous shit like that, check your cup for Kool-Aid.

I am afraid this will sound snarky and I hope it doesn't. I am proud of you and happy for your continued success.

Every independent study that has been conducted on long term alcoholism and the success of AA shows little or no long term success above the statistical average for people who achieve spontaneous sobriety.

Ugh...AA.

My guess is he doesn't really want to break up with you but is having trouble resisting parental pressure. I'd tell him that he has to be a grown up and make his own choices and that graduation is a good time to stop letting mommy and daddy tell him what to do with his life.

I've never posted here before, but as a therapist with an alcoholic family member, I figured I'd give it a shot. It really doesn't sound like there's anything more you should be doing. If you feel that your brother is at immediate risk, you could possibly track down the number for a crisis team in his area (if one…

Fair point about my description, it is functional alcoholism, specifically female functional alcoholism. But beyond that, your comment is just a lot of assumptions about her that are false. My mom is not a perfectionist (she taught me the 80/20 rule), and she cared/cares deeply for her children, all of whom she is…

Not one-size-fits-all - and not "only size there is, period." A close relative had basically the pattern you describe - was definitely out of control as a young adult, partly due to some awful shit happening, partly due to poor coping, parental role models, and so on. He processed the grief over the horrible events,…

Calling someone a "sheisty alcoholic" betrays precisely the sort of group-think that turns off so many to AA. I've had experience with AA, and found it to be, simply, a cult. No more, no less.

"An addict ends up giving themselves permission to lie, cheat, steal, ruin the lives of their children, because THEY and their sense of control come #1"

Honestly, I'm starting to doubt that he's even good-looking.

The example is something that happens to actual living children. People on this thread, even. It's not "silly" just because you don't like it. Seriously, how can you possibly see yourself as moral when your response to child abuse is "oh, that's silly, let's not engage with that"? Because, outside of genocide, lemme…

Every pregnancy is a risk to that woman's life. How much of a risk varies with each woman, but I sure as hell don't feel like telling someone how much risk she has to take against her will.

I would agree you do have a very good grasp because here you are on a site dedicate to feminism and you are going out of your way to judge women on what they do with their bodies. I can not think of one good reason to start all of this here. Granted you are indeed entitled to your own opinion just as I am entitled to…

"How do you conceive a baby by accident? What he fell in your vagina as he was ejaculating? People need to responsible for their actions."

Actually I do and I live my life my by set of morals (don't intentionally hurt any living thing, try not to do any damage to the earth or the environment, and don't let people fuck with me..ok that last one isn't a moral but a code) but I don't tell people that I think the decision that they made for themselves is the…

Pretty frequently actually, depending on the type of birth control. Human error.

Better education regarding contraception is meaningless when the situation involves a wanted pregnancy with fetal abnormalities.

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I totally woke up at 4 am to watch the wedding - my bf at the time and I both got up and prepared an English breakfast (well, the best we could with the products we found at our local NJ supermarket) and drank champagne all day. It was totes fun, though we abandoned the wedding once they got to the boring preachy…