So very sad. Far too young.

It is one cancer I really hope they make a breakthrough in. I watched someone close to me go from “mild stomach pain” to dying in 7 months.

“May you rest in excitement” was where I lost it and I don’t know who either of these people are. I always thought that r.i.p was unfair to some friends and family who also found “peace” boring. I will use this phrase, and I hope someday someone uses it for me too. R.I.E Ms. Elias, R.I.E

Agreed. My aunt died of pancreatic cancer and it was a matter of a few weeks from diagnosis to death. It’s brutal.

I was already in a sad mood today so I’m going to just close my office door and cry for a bit because love is terrible.

I love this sketch! But I do wonder what Carrie’s experience is with Fred, in the way of harassment etc. I remember reading that he’s basically a dick to women.

Your description of Harmon really fits Bojack Horseman so well I might not look at that character or Harmon the same.

That’s why I doubt someone like this guy feels remorse. Most remorseful people say they never want to forget the pain they caused because that will keep them from slipping back into their abusive ways. If you say you want to put your bad behavior behind you and move on, you’re a prime candidate for recidivism because…

Exactly. I think people have forgotten that sometimes you should feel bad. If you’ve abused someone, you absolutely should feel bad and, honestly, I’ll say you should feel bad forever. And be thankful that you feel bad, as a reminder to never abuse someone again. Be thankful that you feel bad as a testament that…

Alright I’ll bite. OP wasn’t saying that it is impossible to make amends or that any attempts to seek forgiveness should be dismissed or scorned. However, the way Harmon went about asking for forgiveness is telling: “I feel bad that I hurt you and want to make it up to you so that I feel better” vs “I acknowledge that…

The phrase should be,” Tell me what I can do to make YOU-the injured party- feel better”not, “Tell me what I can do so that I-the person at fault- can stop feeling bad”.

Yup. “I can’t deal with my own guilt, so I’m going to hope you’ll perform even more emotional labor for me by unpacking it and teaching me to be better.”

I’m guessing cocaine.

Yup- so busy seeing himself as a victim of his addiction that he thinks that he has the same perspective as someone he actually victimized. It’s a shame because even when working through this shit through Rick’s character on Rick & Morty, the focus is still on Rick feeling bad when he realizes how bad he makes other…

“Tell me what I can do” is not the same as “I would feel a lot of relief...”. Also, I’d just like to point out the irony of the fact I’m now having two separate discussions about the nature of forgiveness under a comment thread about people changing the subject from sexism/racism as a rhetorical tactic.

A cursory look at your comment history leads me to the conclusion that there really isn’t any point in continuing whatever this is with you.

But redemption doesn’t just come from saying “sorry, am I good now?” It’s a process that takes time and only comes when someone has actually worked to better themselves.

I’m not going to dismiss this one. Where exactly did I say making amends is impossible? It’s impossible for one to make amends from a place that isn’t completely genuine and emphasizing one’s own comfort is inherently disingenuous.

That’s what it boils down to. I see this so much when the topic of racism is broached. Someone does or says something bigoted, gets called out and somehow the discussion veers into their comfort, as if it’s a child being addressed. I’ve seen situations where the person even starts to literally cry. It always comes…

Also makes me wonder just what suffering he’s talking about. Clearly does not come from even a remotely similar place that Ganz is talking about. He says and does shitty things. Ganz has shitty things done and said to her.