Let me add my voice to the chorus of others recommending that you avoid bridesmaid duties but attend the wedding. It sounds like this relationship probably won’t last anyway, so just be a supportive friend until it inevitably falls apart and she really needs you. Just do your best to sprinkle in helpful advice that…

My mother had the same “you’re nothing without a man” attitude starting when I was really little. But that was in the sixties! It’s so heartbreaking to see it’s still happening! Unfortunately, there’s nothing like a big dose of real life to make you see otherwise. That’s probably the only way your friend will figure…

Yikes, that sounds awful. I think I’d opt out of being a bridesmaid in your position, but of course that depends on her and how she will react. I’d aim for something like, “Hey, I love you and I want you to be happy. I think it’s really important that your wedding party be filled with people who approve of your…

You can refrain from critiquing her marriage but still refuse to be a bridesmaid. Just let her know that, while of course you will be there on her happy day and stuff, you can’t in good conscience be her bridesmaid. It sounds like she has a lot of other ladies in her life who are eager to boost her onto the Crazy…

Ugh. I went through this... I knew my friend’s scumbag boyfriend to be a racist, sexist asshole. It blew my mind that she didn’t pick up on it. I acutely felt, however, that if I tried to be candid with her she would choose the relationship with him over my. She was so crazy in love and eager to be married, I don’t…