They could all be the same guy and who knows where they are really from. Your statement: “Speaking of Indian guys....Wtf fuck is up with Indian guys??? I mean, the ones on the internet they’re all horny creeps who give off rapey vibes (do you yahoo chat?).” is out of line. Making broad sweeping statements about a big…

The first hug caught you by surprise, but maybe you would feel better if you stopped them after the first one. Just duck behind your spouse if need be.

Not really listening in the first place kills communication before it starts. Are you looking at the speaker? Are you thinking about what they are saying instead of your answer to what they are saying? Are you giving the speaker non-verbal positive feedback?

How about you be honest, but also forgiving and loyal, to everyone? The people who can’t handle it may not be as good of friends as you thought or just need some time and a friend who won’t hold their “shoot the messenger" reaction against them forever.. Be gentle when you break the bad news and make sure it really is…