As a male close to college age with a modicum of emotional perception, if I received this:

I was raped by an acquaintance in high school who took my virginity and if I run into him in the city where we both live I still am fucking paralyzed into being cordial. It was six years ago and the thought of confronting him still fills me with terror. The closest I got was weeks after via AIM when I said "I hate…

I'm going to be honest: I think the exact amount of force used is a creepy thing to fixate on, and I have absolutely no interest in going back to the source materials to see what you're talking about. The important thing, to me, is that she said no physically and verbally, and he kept going. Exactly how hard he held…

I was raped when I was 19 years old. It was by a guy I had known and thought of as a friend. He must have put something in my drink because I blacked out for a while only to realize I was being led to the bathroom where I started to vomit. Next thing I know he sticks his tongue in my mouth and I black out again. …

Guy at my teaching post-graduate college was accused of rape. My initial reaction was ' malicious allegation'. Why? He was a teacher, I thought he'd given a student one detention too many. He was a fun guy. He wasn't bad looking. He played rugby. He had friends. He was socially functional. Turns out multiple…

I made a burner for this and will probably be stuck in the greys but here goes. Also, possible triggers.

I was raped by my boyfriend in high school and I can certainly understand where she would be coming from. Especially just a few days later. Maybe it was a mistake? Maybe she didn't understand what he was trying to do? Maybe he didn't understand what happened? It's hard when it's a person you have a close and deep…

Yeah, but that's assuming a lot. I mean, we're all just making assumptions here, but it sounds like she was trying to sound totally normal so that maybe she could get the chance to talk to this guy about what had happened. I, myself, was attacked by an acquaintance in college, and our entire group of friends remained…

My girlfriend was raped by her father as a child. When she went to her mother for help, her mother called her a whore that deserved it and beat her mercilessly. She was 9. The next five years of her life until she finally ran away consisted of a steady pattern of getting raped by dad and beaten by mom for being raped…

Yes. It is, actually. But you're too busy trying to find ways that feminists hate men to realize that's a central tenant of feminism - that the patriarchy hurts everyone.

This IS exactly why people don't report, and it's also why consent education is crucial — for *women,* as well as for men. When women are raped, they too often internalize the dominant script — it must have been an accident, a mistake, a miscommunication, probably their fault at least as much as his, etc etc — and…

Nope, I actually think it's still called rape!

I think it's just hard to reconcile the mental image of someone you know, like, and (presumably) trust with the person who just violated you. It is easily to try to downplay what happened, or convince yourself it was a "misunderstanding," or whatever mental gymnastics you need to use to try to make it go away so your…

Yeah, and my sister (who knew the guy) urged me to report, said "what would Olivia Benson say?", and then - breaking my heart into a million pieces forever - talked to our dear friend and believed him over me. So. If that could happen in the space of 24 hours, I know full well I would have been in serious fucking…

This is exactly why I didn't report. I had sex with my rapist on a few occasions after he raped me because I thought I was claiming some control and maybe the rape would fade away behind these other encounters. Friends begged me to report but I knew I'd be dead in the water.

Or, "there is no evidence of rape!" As a lawyer this boggles the mind. Testimony is evidence. If she testifies that he did it, that's evidence. Just like if he testifies he didn't, that is also evidence. What people are really saying is that men are more trustworthy than women, at all times.

That "gotta hear both sides!" (copyright @Desus) mentality is the worst. Like with politics: Dems say x, Republicans say z, so the truth has to be somewhere in the middle at y. No! It doesn't! One side could just be full of shit.

It's far, far more common then you think.

If you're like my grandmother, be molested by her uncle and then blame it on her mother because she abandoned her (and couldn't protect her against said molester). She has never said these exact words but it's so obvious her hatred towards women (she blamed my mom on her abuse from men for not being "smart" enough to…

I'm just going by my own experience, but having a ~real live rapist~ in the family (grandfather) sure does seem to make a lot of people (grandmother, uncle) want to pretend that all raped women are liars (mother, aunt). These people make me sick.