I dealt with a stalker in high school. He wanted to date, I said no and he went batshit. Threats, showing up places I was, sending threats through other people, waiting outside my classes, telling people I was a slut, driving down my street-usual stalker stuff. My parents took me to the police, and while I was…

People are already murdered specifically for being women, and people make excuses for it while claiming it's not about sexism. This happens even when the murdered outright say it's because they hate women and want to kill them. So, as weird as it is to say: I wish that were true.

Anna, thank you so much. I have loads to say and this is perhaps not the best place to say all of it. In my years of moderating Jezebel and Groupthink (nowadays Groupthink), I've faced a lot of horrifying trolls myself. The other mods and I have had to contact police before, block doxxing attempts, take care of…

I'm so sorry that happened to you, and not at all surprised by the police response.

...and yet, if they get ignored and something like a rape does actually happen it's the woman's fault? Did I get that one right?

That's a great point. I'm sure your sage judgment about people you've never met is very comforting to the women threatened by them.

Oh gosh, silly me

Someone broke Megyn Kelly and I'm loving every. fucking. second.

"Please be specific"

Which feelings? You hurt my video games feelings? You hurt my childhood? You don't comfort me like my mother did feelings? You don't like the overpowering smell of French fries that wafts from my mattress so I'm thinking you are stuck-up feelings? Please be specific/.

Those are asses so it's safe to say you don't have a fucking clue what to do when it comes to the ladies.

All the time. "Could you send that blonde girl over there a shot?" Bartenders hate it. It kills the vibe of the bar. Back when I bartended, I'd always say no and tell them why. "Dude, no way is that gonna work, go talk to her first." Either they'd understand and appreciate it, or they'd take their creepy shit…

Don't buy a girl a drink if you haven't talked to her yet. You see this shit in movies and it works, so maybe if you're George Clooney you can ignore this. But in real life it never works, it comes off as creepy and makes the girl feel uncomfortable. Talk to her first.

An artist's depiction of Lily's editor hanging out in this comments section

I don't see why that's NOT a legitimate argument, though. There are plenty of white dudes who write stuff that I agree with, but it's a completely natural tendency to think: "Who are you to define and represent my life when you know nothing about living in this position?" If some white dude wrote some stuff about race…

And this is the reason that not all opinions are created equal. People who know nothing about a subject are getting pissed off that they can no longer show everybody how little they know about a subject without getting called out that they know nothing about a subject. Why am I supposed to feel sad for them again?

I have well-intentioned straight white dudes in my life. Whenever we discuss gender politics, this is the kind of argument they raise: "But you're telling me my perspective about this doesn't count because I'm a white guy! That's not fair!" And I'm over here like, when I'm telling you what it feels like to be…

Jia, honest question: If this article hadn't been written by a guy, what would you have based your rebuttal of his arguments on? Because I'm a woman but I basically could have written that article. I tend to feel the same way as this guy and I agree with him that while I agree with the generally noble intentions…