While practices may have improved behind the scenes (sometimes), what we see on screen has still not caught up.

What would help immensely in putting an end to this is if audiences stopped going out of their way to woobify or venerate characters who do this shit. Look how many people loved Ed Harris’ MiB so much that he’s improbably coming back next season despite the fact that by any reasonable narrative, he should be dead as…

Fuck I hate when they do that so much. A rape is literally just used as character building for the male lead (I’m looking at you Berserk). It’s such a lazy narrative device in the same vein as when writers use jealousy to advance romantic plots.

You missed that yesterday.

I would also suggest banning having characters come out of retirement for one last job.

“Hank” and “Greenish” are tomato varieties. Tomato-troll relapsed and is addicted to opiates again, and is trolling here once more. Dismiss him when possible, ignore him when it’s not.

Folks, this is a college rape accusation story and we all know the MRA trolls are going to swarm this post. Don’t respond and bring them out of the grays, it’s what they want. It’s literally all they want. They don’t want to engage in a discussion about campus sexual assault or sexual assault in general or talk about…

I wonder if Mr. X taught Brock Turner the ropes.

You can help make it up to us by being a great, hands-on role model to your sons, nephews, and every other young man in your life. It wouldn’t hurt if you became a Big Brother or did other volunteer work with young men. And also, when you hear boys/young men/grown men saying anything inappropriate about women,…

I wonder what team he’s on / which building his family donated / which administrator is his parent / how bright and promising his future is.

Oh, I get what he was trying to do, but by using stereotypes and oversimplification and suggesting a solution that, frankly, no one is going to take him up on is not helping women.

I was thinking about an electrical socket earlier. The plug goes in the socket, but the socket is what powers the machine. Obviously not a perfect analogy, but an example of something being penetrated in a non-passive way.

That is fucking dumb, I hate this old trope that being penetrated is inherently passive and degrading (he doesn’t say the last part but it’s implied). Germaine Greer suggests it’s no more passive than eating, an analogy I like. It’s not like your vag/body just sit there doing nothing, and if they are it’s probably…

Oh, totally agree. It’s beyond an oversimplification. While I think his heart is in the right place - he wants men to get women more - reducing that to penises and holes isn’t exactly going to solve gender inequality. He took ‘standing in someone’s shoes’ literally and went full Freud.

“This may get me flamed but seriously, I do get tired of how some gay men exaggerate the feminine in a way that feels a bit like appropriation.”

Oh yeah, he’s gay so he gets carte blanche to treat women however he wants, because He Understands. <<huge wet Bronx cheer>>

Also, I was just re-reading what he said and fuck that guy. He’s just perpetuating this idea that “being penetrated” is a passive experience and somehow by its nature more “personal” than penetrating. That’s fucking dumb.

Following your lead of comments to get flames, I think Tom does have a little bit of a point. Getting stuff put inside me certainly doesn’t inform my entire experience as a woman, but I do get overwhelmed sometimes by sex with dudes because it’s like yeah, something is going inside my body at a point that I can’t even…