The important point is that by owning a home you can live happily there AND know that you can do what you want with it when the time comes. Renters don't have that luxury.

that's totally wrong.

Was it your point, or wasn't it?

having boundaries is fine, but not everybody's boundaries are the same. To some people, the typical "what do you do? What music do you like?" small talk is boring. They'd rather skip to the more controversial bits like your ideology, geneology, or sexual preferences.

I can see some truth there. Guys are asking you where you're from because you're pretty and they want to know something about you. If your features are unlike anything they've ever seen before, the first thing on their minds is "Where are you from? No I mean *really* from?"

i usually don't care where someone is from ... But I do think there are some features that many will see as distinctly Other. Eyes that are different shapes, big noses, darker skin, etc.

I can only speak from my experience as a non-white American ... very rarely do white people in America receive this same line of questioning.

I think we just need to agree that "Where are you from?" doesn't mean "What's your ethnicity?"

well VIP RSS was good while it lasted. now this tool lifehacker featured doesn't work on its truncated RSS feed.

Now that lifehacker and other gawker sites have removed their full-text RSS feed this site doesn't work on their RSS feeds. oh the irony. :-(

i'm in NYC and my window doesn't have a screen. it's a large window in the side of a recently built building. It doesn't open wide, but the small opening lets bugs right in.

2 things:

this is by far the best way to handle stupid people yelling dumb things at you. I'd totally understand if somebody turned the tables on me like that.

Pippa is by far my favorite "royal" relative, even if she's not technically royal.

weird. i've been setting it every day for a while now. even if i refresh the page it resets.

can you please excerpt some of the video for those of us who can't watch videos at work?

Niel Strauss's "Rules of the Game" was useful for me. It breaks down the self-improvement process over a period of 30 day (or something like that). It does from being able to look appealing, to how to talk to the opposite sex, then steps on how to be romantic. It's pretty good. Obviously there's no silver bullet…

read some PUA literature, particularly "The Game". It was recommended to me from a girl I barely knew. It's just as helpful for women as men.

Attractiveness cuts both ways for the sexes. Much of the PUA literature for men is about attractiveness. Many lonely nerds need to evolve from caveman to gentleman. Part of that involves bathing regularly, dressing well, grooming, etc. Things guys aren't conditioned to do the way women typically are. Everyone is…

Helena Rubenstein once said "There are no ugly women, only lazy ones".