Where is the study? What does the study say? I see it mentioned in the first paragraph but then the rest of the post is about how fucked up skin lightening and such is. Which, you know, fair point. But — study? I want to see it.

I disagree with your interpretation. I think he was saying that yes, he wants his partner to be dependent on him, not that he will take steps to make sure that happens or that he will pressure his partner to make less or not work or something. Once again, this is about the dumb expectations that the patriarchy places…

Yeah, but here's where I differ from you and the previous commenter (who apparently has lost her burner key): I don't think he was being prescriptive. I think he was being descriptive. I.e., he mostly said, "Here's the way I feel! It sucks!" He did not say "Women shouldn't be successful and I don't like it when they…

There are lots of people with this attitude. My own mother, who stayed home with me until I was 5 but worked before and after and is still working, asked me after my second child was born what I was "going to do" on maternity leave. I told her I was going to take care of my baby and stagger around in a haze from lack…

1) This is my lunch time, so lunch break! But thanks for the snark, asshole.

But that is how I read his post and subsequent posts — that the feeling he has is irrational, that he doesn't truly want his partner to not be successful, that he simply feels that he is less somehow because she does make more money than him, even though he knows that's ridiculous. He never said, "I feel that way and…

?? This article is literally about how men feel. If you can't accept another commenter chiming in that, hey, he feels that way too, because of the patriarchy, and it sucks, then why are you bothering to dialogue at all?

I agree with you. Feeling insecure about not making more money is not your fault. You shouldn't be made fun of for feeling that way, because it is the way that the patriarchy has told you that you should feel. You're getting a lot of kneejerk "poor little man" responses. Ignore them because the people responding to…

Agreed. I posted about this in the grays. Let's not make fun of men for feeling insecure. Let's change the system that tells them they have to make the most money to be a man.

I think that instead of making fun of men for this, we should instead work to combat the misandry that makes them feel this way, i.e., you are only a real man if you make more than your wife or girlfriend. It's just another stupid expectation to conform to.

I would also add: you say you need to work at a job where you can't constantly pump breastmilk? YOU ARE THE WORST MOTHER EVER.

YES! GOOD POINT! Because getting any job, not to mention the job of your choice, is so easy! And if you don't have a lot of pretty credentials, finding a job outside of academia or corporate America with those benefits is a snap! Truly BitchFist, you have opened my eyes today.

Why can't I have this? Why can't I have this? Also, why can't I live in the UK? Your Mexican food is abominable but your Indian food is great and your chocolate is WONDERFUL.

Nope! The point of maternity leave is to allow women to heal physically from the trauma of having a baby. The physical trauma.You wanting leave even though you have not had a baby is like me saying to you, "Why do YOU get time off from work for your broken arm/cancer treatment/hemorrhoid surgery? I want some too!" But…

This dude is a known Jezebel troll. Just FYI.

Yeah. Parental leave is awesome, but I think we should start with maternity leave to allow the person who just had a baby to physically heal. Because there is a shitton of physical healing to do. Fucking insane that we do not do this already, for Christ's sake. "Hey, I see you just shoved a baby out of your birthing…

I watched it. Cried. And then I read a comment from a Jezzie who lost his or her 6 year old son a few months ago. Sobbed.

Who cares if it's unreasonable? You are more than entitled to that feeling.

I hope it's nothing. I really do.

Jesus fuck I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. I don't know you or your son. All I can say is that I am confident the world would be a better place if he were still in it.