I don’t even think there’s such a thing as “private adoption” in the country I live in. And by law all adoptions are open adoption where possible, they won’t even legally approve them unless you’ve shown that you are capable and supportive of maintaining contact with the birth family.

I think there are a bunch of embryos in limbo because they were created before people put a lot of thought into the long term repercussions. My clinic has the 51 cut off too but I don’t know when they implemented it. If the mom was young when the embryos were created she may be skating just under the cut off. Also…

As a former infertile person, there’s something really powerful in the longing to be pregnant that you’re overlooking. Some of that comes from culture, and some of it from hormones, but it’s a really strong desire regardless. For some people, it’s just not possible, but that doesn’t make the wanting go away.

In…

...and the cost is insane...

I was extremely fortunate to have had ivf work for an unconventional situation. It’s not a sure thing for anyone and it’s really hard emotionally, physically, and financially .

Yes!! Why do so many people say “her body, her choice” but not for infertility. Guess what, it was my money, insurance didn’t even cover most of it, it really isn’t a burden on anyone for me to have gone through ‘my chicie’

I think it would be great if adopting were cheaper. But it’s still not that complicated. Many children up for adoption have been removed from their family. And if they are removed from family, the system more often tries to reunite and it leaves adopting parents heartbroken, plus children coming from said…

It did. I have a legit medical miracle 17 month old and as miserable an experience as it was, my kids amazing.

The US just enjoys fucking its citizens over any way it can.

While I wouldn’t demand that anyone adopt, I also find it interesting that adoption is so expensive in the U.S., I was reading about it the other day. I’m going through the adoption process in another country, one where adoption is exceedingly rare. And the government covers all legal costs, the only thing we’ve paid…

Fellow IVF’er here and I am amazed that I have somehow made it through the last year without gut punching one of the people who has gone down this bullshit line of thinking with me. Hope your journey was a success, or will be soon!

One of my weirdest notarial experiences to date was notarizing an embryo destruction form. I know it happens all the time but when you’re used to run of the mill business docs that one throws you for a loop.

I don’t know why it offends me so much that she’s had so much work done and she still looks so mediocre to me. But I guess they can’t do much about those chipmunk cheeks.

“couldn’t they give you like, a better chin? I mean I can still see your brothers faces when I look at you.”

“have you considered having some work done? ...oh, you have? and this is the result? okay... cool.”

“Did you marry Jared because he has the same lack-of-personality as your dad and is just as evil?”

I conceived spontaneously a couple months before we were supposed to start our first IVF cycle. Our insurance covered infertility treatments, including IVF (we were very lucky) so it was definitely the less expensive option for us. In the end I opted to only have one child and we didn’t use IVF, but I had zero qualms…

How about sniggering and murmuring behind her back but as soon as she looks around being dead quiet and looking anywhere but at her?

“Teacher, I think I speak for the entire class when I say I’d rather have a pop quiz than a surprise Ivanka Trump visit. I’ll even go make the copies.”

Not sure about with embryo adoption, I know they do with sperm and egg donation. I’m sure they do, they seem to be pretty on top of things!