I hear you! My husband at least will acknowledge that he’s engaged in an irrational thing by rolling a tiny confrontation down the hill to create a bigger one. However I should give my husband credit because our chore distribution is more or less even, just the way it gets distributed is based on his whim - he gets…

IDK why exactly but this reminded me of the time my husband and I both realized at the same time that none of our celebrity crushes had been educated beyond high school. We were like Ooooh... yeah we actually are better off with each other.

Honestly now that you’re describing it it sounds a lot like clinical depression and I maybe don’t want it as bad as I thought.

That sounds great, and I feel like it’d be a perfect arrangement since you know if won’t last forever so you enjoy it more fully, and it doesn’t come with financial stress because you’re not actually out of the workforce, just on a break. I’ve had a couple of very brief periods of unemployment in my life (3 weeks was…

Yeah, the happiest man is comprised of the slapped-together parts of hundreds of merely content men.

I guess I hadn’t thought of people who are retired or receiving disability as being “not in the workforce,” since their income was generated by their time working, but I can see how I spoke broadly. If you’re describing your own experience, thank you for your service. I’m sorry and ashamed that you were treated so…

I know! At this point I almost don’t even get mad about it, and he KNOWS whenever the situation comes up that it was of his own creation. I’m like “why do you do this irrational thing that you know is going to end in this dumb argument?” and he’s like “I don’t know when will I learn?!?” You’ll learn when you decide to…

Well I just fucked that up left and right. My poor husband.

I think he thinks he gets points for honesty? Or that I’ll think it’s sweet he doesn’t want to tell me no? It is not sweet at all. It’d be sweet if he actually did what he said he would for me.

That’s almost certainly the case. So I guess the takeaway is that most of us cannot realistically marry the happiest man. The happiest man is a myth, a Frankenstein’s monster constructed from the disembodied parts of men who are merely content.

I’d like to think I have the imagination to spend that money in an amusing enough way.

HALF A CHORE. The worst.

I don’t know if I’m “agreeable” enough to snag a sugar daddy. Wait, I do know. I’m not.

Happiest male’s new wife is not in the labor force and also they have no children. Does that happen anymore? Honestly the only women I know who aren’t in the workforce are those who are working their asses off taking care of their kids. What does someone with no caregiving responsibilities and no work obligations do?…

I actually like the Kardashians but it’s funny because of course they weren’t serving cocaine like through the caterer. So I guess that’s the denial being made, like “no we didn’t have cocaine we had jello shots.” But it was most certainly there. It’s everywhere.

I hear you. For me there’s a lot of guilt around the fact that my husband was debt-free before he hitched up to me, and now he is decidedly not. I am grateful that he has an attitude like yours and would never ever make me feel bad about it. Because it’s exclusively student loan debt I think it’s easy for him to see…

too late to edit, but wanted to add: Mine is of law school proportions. So you’ll be okay!

Student loan debt is stressful and it’s easy to feel overwhelmed but it is a lot more flexible than other types of debt. You can build good credit even while you have a considerable student loan debt load, and have options you wouldn’t have with other types of debt for building assets. I, too, have a lot of student…

That’s so awful. I can’t make myself star your comment but this is obviously the worst thing. Sorry you saw/heard it and sorry it happened at all.

You are very cool because 1) you are a physicist and 2) you are nice to stranger children.