Take the job.

He’ll come or he won’t, but either way I would take that job in your shoes. And I think you’re at a great age to explore and get to know a new city! Old enough to feel confident doing it, young enough to still make new friends easily. It’s basically perfect.

Girl, get thee to Chicago. I totally get it being scary to upend your life—and at 28, you feel like you should have this all sorted by now (I’m not much older than you, so I’m with you on your late 20s being hard!)—but you owe it to yourself to go for this opportunity. He doesn’t have to move for your job, but it…

Take the job. You need to focus on yourself and your future.