I mean I chain the BF to the radiator so he can’t go see his friends and get any ideas about leaving me. So that makes sense to me

Every relationship is different, and life has stages. Don’t worry until you’re given something to worry about. :)

I think some people are just overdramatic, or to put it more nicely, they ~naturally experience stronger emotions~. Like, what I consider mild annoyance or frustration at my husband, other people might describe that same feeling as hating their spouse. Or I have some moments of unhappiness when I’m forced to…

I’m with you on that: I mean, I haven’t been through the amazing transformative experience of marriage (which maybe converts relationships to being this magical hard thing?) but I’ve lived with my partner for four years, we’ve been through cross-country moves, unemployment, the death of a parent [his] and a…

Comments like yours are really encouraging to hear, as someone who is not married but wants to someday be married. So, please, don’t stop talking about it.

Yea its super interesting, my bf and I have been together a few years and we live together (THAT was the really hard part for me) and his therapist asked the other day what he thinks marraige will be like and if it will be different. He then came home and asked me what I thought it would be like. I assume it will be…

I just wrote the exact same thing. I don’t think marriage is hard at all.

I’m married, and I don’t get this either. My relationship is no different than it was before we got married. It’s nice to be considered each other’s family now, but when we’re at home, hanging out together, it doesn’t feel different to be doing it as husband and wife v. boyfriend and girlfriend. I think that people…

This, apart from infertility. Things like a parent getting Alzheimer’s can make or break a marriage (honestly, it’s about the most stressful thing I’ve ever had happen to me, and that includes cancer), and if you can get through that, I won’t say everything is rainbows and lollipops, but you can do it.

I think this is lovely and I agree. My husband is my best friend, my favorite person to hang out with, and the first person I want to speak to when things are wonderful or when they are painful. My marriage is the best thing in my life.

That’s where I’m at as well. Everything else is really hard, but I get to go through it with the person I love, and that’s pretty damn cool.

I don’t think that makes you hateable, but I do think that makes you very lucky. I don’t believe in soulmates, but I do believe that some people are of optimum suitability for others, and it looks like you’ve found one of yours!

Yeah- I don’t think marriage should be making life harder- it should generally be making life easier. The example in the article about the airline confuses me- that’s a job/airline problem, not a spouse problem. Or maybe they just really hate logistics?

Ditto. What’s-His-Name and I have been through some unfathomable bullshit in our 15 years together, starting with the full cancellation of our wedding reception by my MIL. Yeah, that happened, and we still got married. We’re better together than we are apart.

I hate when people say “marriage is hard!” No, it’s actually not that hard, you guys. You pick the right person and you both commit to making the thing work? It’s easy! Sure, there are HARD PARTS, but there are literally hard parts of every damn thing. The hard part of marriage is the boring, seemingly-endless walking…

That’s so sweet.

“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not…

Here’s my thing - the whole “it’s hard” and “for better or for worse” argument only applies to regular life stuff, right? I’m in an abusive relationship and some people are telling me that I should still stick it out because marriage is “hard.” But I’m correct in thinking this doesn’t apply when there’s abuse, correct?

I guess this is the part where I become utterly hateable, but my wife and I are deeply in love, and after 14 years of marriage, I think she’d agree with me that, while life is hard, our marriage has been the easiest part of it. And that’s with infertility, cancer, and parental disability thrown in. It’s the marriage…