Only Harry is going to Sandringham, Meghan is back in Vancouver with the baby. She’s skyping in. So expect 15 minutes of awkward “can you hear me?” “Is Meghan on?” small talk before meeting begins. 

What I love about this conversation is, I keep saying, “I’m aware how fortunate I am,” and you keep responding by throwing up examples of how fortunate I am. I get it: dealing with self-righteous fucks like Dale Peck is definitely easier than having to do sex work to put food on the table. And if this conversation had…

What’s your coming out story anyway, Rich? Curious as to when and why you decided to come out the way you did, or if you’re a “dyed-in-the-wool gay” who I guess never had to come out or something? I’m just curious, yours was obviously the right way to do it so I’d like to be educated on how to identify the right kind…

How reductive and cruel to say that he waited 33 years “because he fretted how it might affect his career, who was able and content to pass as straight or something like it during those 33 years.”

“If you want to accept gay people....you have to accept that they may do things that you find grotesque but that make them no less acceptable and no less human.”

Dale Peck is not a radical. Him calling a fat red-headed man who he’s not attracted to a “potato” is nothing but mainstream. Mainstream gay and cruel.  And predictible. Peck’s prolapsed asshole does not give him a perspective that the rest of us lack. It just means he fucks alot. Or has. There is wisdom to be gained…

“It’s rude writing that knows it’s rude, a sort of performative, exaggerated takedown that is designed to make you feel guilty for laughing at it. It’s an example of what the gays call reading. Just because it isn’t coming out of lined lips and broadcast on television via RuPaul’s Drag Race doesn’t make it any…

“These are rites of passage for a lot of gay men, and it fuels many aspects of gay culture.”

Can we put down our wedding planning binders and focus on the actually important fights?

Which privilege? I’m a white, middle class man. You need to be a lot more specific.

Ya’ll are REALLY leaning into this homophobic trash? We get it, you don’t like Mayor Pete. FINE. Don’t try to reason away this garbage to justify it. It’s a bad look. 

If we’re going to refer to run of the mill men and women who aren’t overly political and just want to live their damn life as assimilationists let’s be real about the people you’re calling “radicals” they are little more than performers looking for shock value.

It’s convenient to fob off responsibility over the response to this article on “clueless straight allies,” but I don’t think that’s the issue here at all. This is a generational thing within the queer community itself.

Man I liked you guys better when you were outing Conde Nast executives based upon a conflicting story of a drugged-out prostitute.

Fuck no.

So if it wasn’t homophobic? Then the article was just crude, mean spirited, divorced from any relevance to his political positions, and poorly written? If so that is still a shitty thing to publish... then there is also the fact attacking a gay person for how they choose to come out, a deeply personal decision, is…

But that’s literally what people’s problem with the Peck article is? Peck decided that because Buttigieg is a corporate Dem who didn’t emerge from a culture of radical queer activism it’s fair game to belittle his homosexuality and his lifestyle. 

Homophobia has always been a kind of problematic catch-all of a term precisely because it couches all forms of bigotry and intolerance in the range of fear. And while, sure, there is likely an element of fear/dread in a lot of people’s anti-gay biases, characterizing these biases as a “phobia” too often seems to miss…

So it wasn’t homophobic, it was gate-keeping using in-group language and descriptions that most people wouldn’t recognize in context. That isn’t much better.

Ok, but like, I’m not going to start a lipstick company and call it Redtube.