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I got to read single issues that were leant to me by a friend, and after each issue, I had to dive into the next with no hesitation. Until I got to the end of the Governor's story arc… I was kinda seared and had to put the series down for about a year because it was so intense.

Voldemort, rhymes with Colbert Report, may one of them rest in peace.

Stephen Chow made "Journey to the West" in 2013 and it was a great thing. And it clearly set up an ongoing franchise as well, so H'wood should love that.

Your point has been echoed up and down this whole thread that is more than 1100 posts now. I agree that defeating the mindset that rape is ok is important to do. I agree that not only does education have to happen, a culture change must occur.

Your comment is pretty much like, "Women shouldn't have to worry about wearing shoes sensible enough for running every time they go hiking in the woods for fear they may need to climb a tree to escape a bear."

This was not a bar. Nor was it a place populated by people well known for their civility and polite demeanor.

You're so absolutist. If you're going to church, I think we'd have one answer. If you were going to a club with a large group of friends, I think you'd have another. If you were going to a job interview, that would be different answer too. Honestly, I think Ms. Hynde's point is that she regrets hanging out with bikers

You still take "blame, and "fault" to be the same thing as "responsibility." And they are just not. They only people who regularly blur those distinctions are shitty bosses who are trying to weasel out of their role in appraising your blame for a screw-up at work.

You're right. I don't, personally, hold Ms. Hynde responsible for "preventing" her rape. That's kinda impertinent on my part. And what I think she says here is that she holds herself responsible for making it easy for that guy, not for allowing it to happen. How she reacts to her own experience is entirely up to her

Sorry about the "dude" then. Though, honestly, I just tend to use that regardless of gender. I usually call somebody a dude, whether male or female as a way to lighten the mood, though I guess, it's not very precise. It was not my intent to put my foot in my mouth with an incorrect assumption that may or may not be

I hear ya, Lurker. It's natural to judge. But still, we'd judge the shooter, or the rapist harder, yah?

PS: Maybe it's not "taking responsibility" to prevent a rape. I think maybe I agree with you there. But it's "taking responsibility" to make it less likely? Somebody was playing games about "If I'm a burglar, then it's your responsibility if I rob you?" No. But it would be responsible for me to make it harder for that

Teaching people not to rape or commit violence is an important and valuable thing to do. However, by the time, the potential rapist has grown up, gathered with his hyper-masculine friends and put a "I Heart Rape" button on his jacket, you're not going to be able to effectively dissuade this guy from his intent to take

It'll always be your fault, Muwarr90. Always just your fault.

No matter what happens, I'm not going to "blame" myself for being attacked. I am going to look back at the situation and try to find what I might have done to make the situation less likely or altogether avoidable. That's "taking responsibility" for one's own growth, not for the attack itself and has nothing to do

You want lions? I can do lions…

Again, maybe… If I'm a cop in a high violence precinct, it would be responsible for me to wear a vest. But you know, if I was a cop and didn't wear the vest and got shot, (reasonable) people are not going to say, "That idiot didn't wear a vest." They're going to say, "I wish he had worn a vest!"

But look at the tone of this article. Look at how everybody already has a well-established POV about this. There's nothing wrong with disagreeing with her. But what are you disagreeing about? That she can't learn from experience? She doesn't actually "blame" herself. The only time "blame" appears in this article is

No, that is the wisdom she came to after her experience. She expresses it as "you" only in the sense of the way that I might say, "you really shouldn't eat too many habanero peppers at once." I'm not talking about you, in particular, Waffleicious. I'm trying to express a truism I've discovered through (very painful)

No, what she has to say is more about what she learned from her own rape, not about "rape." She's a smart woman who, yesterday was considered a pillar of feminism in rock's boys club, and today everybody's trying to talk over her and not understand what her real point is because it doesn't parrot the socially