Semi-related: I just moved from the midwest to the northeast. The few times I’ve been in malls, the kiosks seem to hire people to ambush-sell to people walking through the mall. They will get right in front of me, and open with “Excuse me!” or “How are you today?” My midwestern politeness makes me exceedingly…

Eh, that’s assuming this kind of behavior from men is a good faith, making-the-first-move thing, and I don’t believe it is. This is the behavior of men who believe they’re entitled to women’s time. If it were just about finding partners, the fact that it almost never works would make it happen less often, and they…

Every time Chris Evans laughs and grabs his left boob, I imagine him grabbing my left boob instead.

I had a guy walk over to me at the gym, while I was intensely engaged in a workout on the elliptical, and gesture at my earbuds. I thought maybe he was going to tell me something was wrong with my machine, but no, he fucking wanted to CHAT WITH ME IN THE MIDDLE OF MY WORKOUT. And then mansplain to me that I probably…

The one bright side to having IBS is that it has removed from me all shame, hesitation, politeness around pooping. If I gotta poop it’s gotta be NOW and it’s likely going to be unpleasant for all involved so I’ve just accepted my lot in life.

its ridiculous what lengths have to be gone through to be left alone.

I worked in a kids’ bookstore for years, I was so grateful for the chance to revisit new classics and find new awesome YA and picture books. It did make it hard to read adult books for a while, books for grown ups all seemed so goddamned angsty by comparison! Just give me some magic beans or a plucky young orphan…

It took me until I was about 23 to come to the epiphany that women who have any interest in me will make the first move (in fact, they had been doing it since Jr. high school but I was too dumb to notice) and that I should just chill the fuck out and let that happen.

Wut. Part of the issue is that I read for a living (I’m a professor) and for pleasure, I can’t imagine using a book as a prop. If I’m reading in public it’s because I need to be or want to be, I’m not waiting with bated breath for someone to speak to me. And I’m an extrovert! If I want to talk to people, I talk to…

Once I walked into the restroom at my work and there was a woman from the sales department standing at the sink, on the phone with a client, with about six thousand pieces of paper and folders spread out all over the sink, trying to make a sale. I couldn’t believe it. She gave me a dirty look when I washed my hands…

In first year uni, there was a woman on my floor who would quite casually stroll to the bathroom with her can of air freshener and a newspaper or novel and would quite cheerfully let you know that she’d just love to chat, but she’s off for her morning poop and you’ll just have to wait.

I really, really admired her. The…

Completely agree. On Sunday I actually had a man (late 20s or so, fit and physically imposing) come up to me, introduce himself politely and compliment me in a Hallmark store. I was in a rush so I only smiled and said thank you, while moving slowly away under the guise of browsing, thinking the conversation was over.…

What a perfect excuse though! “Sorry, I can’t talk to you/date you/go down on you/whatever it is you expect to happen right now. I have to catch ‘em all. Maybe after I fill up my pokedex? No its ok I have too many Pokémon right now to wrote down your number."

I think a lot of men don’t like the idea of waiting until women approach them because they are scared to death that women just...won’t approach them. because they’ll realise they’re maybe not as attractive as they think they are.

I’m a guy. One semester in college I had a break in between classes that was not long enough to go back to my room or to one of the dining halls (which were at opposite ends of the campus, and not close to where my next class was) to eat lunch, but still long enough to have a nice relaxing lunch at the student union.…

Do we still insist on this? I don’t think I’ve ever waited on a dude to make the first move. If I had I may not have ever had a sex life.