Nah. Cut them off or admit you don’t actually care that much that he’s racist. The rest of us suffer under racism and you’re basically saying it’s more worth it to you to get your inheritance/pretend everything’s fine than do something actually meaningful and cut them out of your life (and tell them why). If every…

I’m like this because my mom used to smack me in the mouth when I would get too loud around other people, so I tend to assume other people have had similarly humiliating experiences. If your brain learns “embarrassment is danger” then you’ll worry about doing embarrassing things. Unfortunately “danger” to a kid can be…

I try to make it treat-myself day. This year I’m lucky in that I’ll be working which will hopefully distract me enough, and if it doesn’t I’ll drink at the end of it. I’m relatively lucky in that my mom wasn’t white so mother’s day was just slightly more abusive than say, my birthday. I think the most important thing…

Treating a child with this much callousness, no matter the reason, contributes to a culture where child abuse is acceptable. It’s cruel and it’s stupid. Really annoyed at all the comments going “it’s not a race thing!!!” or “well ~I~ was a terrible shitty horrible child who was abused by school staff, and I turned out…

19 years later...